How to o****m without fingering myself?

Question

My boyfriend and I have been intimate with each other for about a year. Unfortunately, I've always had the problem of not being able to o****m without fingering myself. I let him to do it as well that way we both participate in the action, and it arouses us both yes, but it's disappointing to him because he want to be able to do it " on his own without any help".

I'd also love to experience this pleasure without any outside stimulation; but I don't exactly know how to go about it. Any suggestions at all?

Answer 1

sit on top of him, until you find a comfortable spot, then ride him until you come. you have a better control, it should do it.

good luck..

Answer 2

You could always try toys... vibrators!

Answer 3

You might be putting to much pressure on yourself. Just relax and think of stuff that turns you on about your bf while your doing the deed and don't think so hard about reaching your o****m and it just might happen on its own.

Answer 4

Unfortunately, contrary to most men's fantasies, vaginal s*x is not the optimum arrangement for sexual stimulation of the female.  The female gets the most sexual stimulation from traction on the hood of the clitoris.  This creates friction on the glans clitoris, which is necessary for most women to reach o****m.  In some women, the motion of the p***s in the v****a creates enough traction on the clitoris hood to cause o****m, along with the female's level of excitement about vaginal s*x.  The fact that your boyfriend is not able to do it "without any help" is not a personal failing, it's just a consequence of the way the female sexual anatomy is arranged.  Female o****m is not as important as male o****m for reproductive fitness, so there hasn't been as much evolutionary pressure to perfect it.

Once you reassure your boyfriend that he's not a failure because you're not that responsive to vaginal s*x alone, there's one workaround that you might try so that he can trigger your o****m by his own efforts.  Have him enter you from behind, then with one hand reach around in front of you and stimulate your clitoris from there.  He may need some guidance from you to help him find the right spot, and know when to rub it, how hard and how fast, and when to leave off for a bit.  Don't be afraid to talk about what you're doing to give him directions.  Guys usually like it when girls comment on the action, as long as it's encouraging, and you let him know how good he's making you feel.  You can also use your hand on his to give him some guidance.

Answer 5

Well, most women are biologically not capable of reaching o****m without clitoral stimulation. All you need to do is teach your boyfriend to do it for you so he gets to pleasure you and you get to lay back and enjoy it.

One thing that has worked for me is to put a hand in between during intercourse and provide that clitoral stimulation myself while I have s*x with my wife. Lots of fun.

Good luck.

Answer 6

First of all, you need to (and HE) realize that 85% of women don't o****m on penetration alone!! Don't feel bad that it takes other help or stimulation. Be glad that you can get there at all. And don't let his ego get in the way of thinking that 'he should be able to do it'.

I've been with different partners, and married several years and have never orgasmed with s*x alone. The more you talk about it, the more you realize that THAT is what's normal. Don't feel bad. But practice will help. And being on top helps some women,..good luck!