How to over come jelousy and insecurity with girlfriend. ?

Question

I am having significant problems with jelousy in my relationship. I have all the evidence in the world that I can trust my girlfriend but for some reason I feel very threatened when a situation arises where she might check out another guy. I know it is not her, it's me...I get very emotional over it too. I want to find a way to learn to really trust in my relationship and to really LET GO of insecurity and fear related to the posibility of infidelity, etc...

Can anyone help me?

Answer 1

your worry to lose her because of your fears/jealous actions...should be greater than your jealousy.  if you put things into a proper perspective maybe you can overcome it.  some jealousy is normal and healthy, but when it's too much it can actually push the relationship over the edge.    i've been on both sides of that fence.  it's not a peaceful relationship for either partner.  i hope your gal can take it!!

Answer 2

Its something you have to figure out on your own, but beware if you dont get a grip- she will end up getting fed up with your insecurities and dump you. A little bit of jealousy is cute, but if its holding her back or making you miserable around her in certain situations, it gets old fast.

I used to be jealous when my husband and I were first married. I know it was my issue and worked hard to overcome it. Now I just take the attitude that he is with me, not anyone else, and he is with me because he chooses to be with me. That alone says alot. My husband has alot of female customers (hes a mechanic) and they call him or will be here at our house (we have an auto shop at our house) when I get home from work and it doesn't really bother me at all.

If you project confidence in yourself and your relationship, others will sense that and think to themselves, wow they are really rock solid. If you get all angry and jealous then others will think wow their relationship must not be too great if they dont trust.

Lastly- if someone is going to cheat, they will do it no matter how jealous you are. You cant stop it, no matter what.  

Answer 3

wow this is the same situation im in..well idk wat 2 tell u i know its Supeer hard and u cant help but feel jelousy..wat i try 2 do is think about how much my bf and i love eachother, and how if i really did have a reason 2 b jelous he wouldnt have stayed with me 4 more than 2 years..just think about this, ur gf chose u 4 a reason.and depending on how long uve been 2gether, i dont think she'd wanna throw away ur relationship 4 another guy.of course ur gunna feel threatend with the idea that ur gf mite check out another guy, but come on, shes only human.wat matters is that shes with u.dont let that jelousy get between u and ur gf, just learn 2 get those thoughts out of ur head..i hope u manage 2 overcome those feelings..best of luck 2 u and ur girl!

Answer 4

There will always be some sort of jealousy in a relationship unless you could care less about your partners actions with the opposite s*x which is almost impossible if you really love them. Now once that fear and jealousy start to effect your actions, that is when it is a problem. You need to find out if it really is her actions or your feelings. Maybe a little of both. If there is something she is doing like flirting with a bunch of dudes then confront her about it. If there is nothing, then it is somehting that has happened to you in the past. That is the baggage that will kill your relationship. You need to have faith and trust that your girl will not do anything. Only once you start to believe that, will you have freedom from your fears. Just believe man...

Answer 5

TRUST...  she 's gonna do whatever she wants to do regardless of how you act, or whatever you say and or do.  You can't control her.  If she cheats on you, her loss, O' well that's just the way it is sometimes, then move on.  You'll get desensitized as you get older, and nothing will seem to bother you.  The bottom line is that you're having fun.  Play the field bro... don't get so attached.  Women come and go.  Lots of them!!!!

Answer 6

Trust yourself! If you have all the proof then why don't you just trust it and be secure in ya'll's relationship. Why would you get jealous? You have her others don't. She is with you for a reason! She comes home to you no one else. So if anyone should be jealous it's any other man in this world looking at your girl! They envy that you have her and they don't. Why would you feel threatened if she looks at another man? Again she is with you, you trust her, so trust yourself to know she is not going anywhere. Could this all be that maybe you are insecure with yourself? You need to be happy and confident with yourself before loving and being involved with someone else. Also if any of these feelings have to do with a past relationship. Maybe a ex cheated on you. You need to let that go. Not every girl or guy are the same. You have to start fresh and new and move forward. If you don't you will never succeed in a good successful relationship b/c of all of this. Don't let that mistake ruin what could be the BEST thing and the one for you!  

Answer 7

Dude...change like that has to come within.  There's no magic pill that's going to open your eyes to the reality you already know about....the fact that she's trustworthy and you have nothing to fear.

All this jealousy is going to do is ruin you...and eventually ruin your relationship with this woman.  If you can at least keep that fact in mind next time you start to get jealous...maybe it's all the reminder that you need to focus on the positive and overcome your fear.