How to overcome an embarrassment?

Question

I was drinking with 2 friends the other night and I admittedly had way too much, so much so that I don't remember the very last part of the evening (blackout). Not good, I know this... I'm giving up drinking for awhile. Ever since then my friend will not respond to my texts or calls. I even sent one asking if he was pissed at me - still no response. I have that horrible feeling somewhere in my subconscious that I said or did something really stupid or hurtful, but I just don't remember! :/ I wrote him an email addressing the possibility and apologizing if that was the case, but I'm a little scared to send it since I don't even know what I'm apologizing for. I already feel like enough of an idiot. Is there a better way to approach this?

Answer 1

get really drunk at the same place and maybe it'll come back to you.  if not you'll prob still have a good time

Answer 2

Sounds like you're taking the right approach. Stay away from the booze until you can approach it respectfully. That's a story that I'm all too familiar with from my youth.

As for your friend, you may be right. I'd send the e-mail, but just make sure you aren't apologizing outright. Address the possibility but don't make any concessions. He may have had a similarly "shameful" experience and not feel comfortable talking to anyone that was there, yet.

Give it some time.

Answer 3

Send a text saying that you got way to drunk and cant remember a thing you did or said so you have no idea what your apologizing for ... could he possibly explain what you did so you can truly mean your apology.

Answer 4

No, no better way.  You have said it quite clearly here and have almost clearly learned your lesson.  I would send the e-mail sooner rather than later.

The only flaw I see in all you have written above is "I'm giving up drinking for awhile."  There is much to be learned from our youthful indiscretions, and we've all made them, I think.  Maybe the better action is never again to drink like that.  Blotto is baaaaaaaaad!

Anyway, you cannot undo what you did, but to apologize is the right thing to do.  If you don't get a response, just move on, with care.

Answer 5

You need to talk to him in person. It's probably just a misunderstanding. You definitely should stop drinking.

Answer 6

I'd go ahead and send the email. That way the ball is in your friend's court and if the friendship suffers, then it's not your fault because you can say you tried.

And don't give up drinking just because of one stupid thing that you don't even know you did. If your friend is the kind of person that wears their feelings on their sleeve then chances are whatever you said or did probably wasn't as bad as a normal person would believe anyway. I have friends like that and it's exhausting trying not to hurt their feelings sometimes.  

Answer 7

I think your approach with the e-mail is good. Be sure to mention that your memory is gone, and that you ARE giving up drinking for a time.

If you apologize profusely and he doesn't accept it, he's not really a friend!