How to overcome my jealously as the poor kid in a rich school?

Question

I go to a wealthy private school (scholarship). It's never bothered me before until this summer when suddenly I feel so jealous of everyone else. They go on vaction all summer long, get cars for their birthdays and whatever else they could want. I feel like such a loser working a crappy minimum wage job and can't help but be jealous of everyone else. I feel so immature.(when i KNOW there are people who have it way worse than I do). how can i get over this?

Answer 1

When my sister and I were teenagers we went to private schools too.  We hung out with other private school kids.  Some of them had a lot of stuff, but most of them (especially the boys) had to earn at least part of their school expenses.  Looking back, I realize that the rich kids spent much of their time at our little ranch house, because my folks opened the door to anyone.  We'd have parties after plays at not just our own schools, but the boys' schools too.  We'd have 200 kids in our yard, and Mom's making chili in every pot she owns.

Right now you might feel jealous, but when you're older you'll find out that stuff and vacations are not nearly as important to you.  I think about my mom blowing the weekly food budget to entertain our friends, and realize how rich we were in the things that matter.

Answer 2

money isn't everything remember what you are at school for do well and you can rise to the top too. i know money makes things easier but at the end of the day if you had money and lots of it would you be happy or sad because of all the begging letters and knowing you have friends because of your money not because of who you are

Answer 3

if ur smarter than them ull be richer later.  

Answer 4

growing up in the property management industry i can understand why you are feeling this way, at your age i felt the same about the people my mother and i worked for.  their kids had everything...or at least i thought so.  

yeah the had the material stuff, but many of them told me how lucky i was to have a family that cared about them.  most of their families didn't.  didn't care what they did, where they went, or whom they went with.  secondly, after school, most of them didn't even know how to take care of themselves, mommy and daddy had done so much for them they could not fend for themselves in the real world,  many of them ended up on drugs or alcohol.  trust me, you will be in a far better position then they will ever be.

Answer 5

Come on, rich people suck. So who cares if you're not wealthy?

Answer 6

i totally understand.

most people i'm surrounded with have lots more money than i do and it really makes me want to cry: "That's so not fair!"

but i've realized that instead of pitying or being jealous of those more fortunate than I, i should  instead put that energy into succeeding myself! So maybe today i don't have the cars, money, laptops, or excessive clothes etc....but one day soon i will && i'll be very proud of it b/c i worked hard for it!!!

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Answer 7

Look at the people below you.

Answer 8

Look at it this way... you're learning the responsibilities of the real world early. You have a job while others are being handed everything they want. You are actually working towards something, saving up, when once these rich kids are brought into the real world without mom and dad, they won't have a clue.

Where I live, you're so much cooler if you work, honestly, haha. I live in a ritzy town, too. But I just don't care... everyone has jobs, even the ritzy!

Answer 9

Dudette, all the stuff wasn't handed to you. You had to go out and Flippin grab it! with your two own hands! In the long run, i'd rather be in your position than to be the kid that gets everything.

If anything, those kids should be jealous at you, because you have something that can't be bought; kick a$s discipline

Answer 10

Ugh, get over it. Think your going private school, your getting a good education. Don't feel jealous there is no need. You were happy up until this point, money shouldn't be the thing making you happy.

Answer 11

You shouldn't be jealous because you are very smart that's why you went there because you don't need to be a snotty rich person! And just because those kids have rich parents doesn't mean they are going to be rich in the future. So just relax girl

Answer 12

For everyone there are people who are richer and people who are poorer, people who are smarter and people who are stupider......and so on.  You are extraordinarily lucky because you have the ability to get a scholarship to what is, I assume, a really good school and those abilities will be of more value and more satisfaction to you in later life than all the toys and luxuries you might have now if your parents were richer.  So, count your blessings because you are really better off than most.