How to prepare my daughter (biological) for an adopted sibling?

Question

I'm a single (divorced) Mom, 44, who always wanted more kids. I have one child, a 9 year old girl who loves younger kids and is very very sweet. I have asked her what she thinks about possibly adopting a younger sister, and she says it would be great. Of course, she really only thinks in terms of a new playmate. I am planning to adopt a daughter between the ages of 4 and 7 through foster care. What can I do to prepare my biological daughter for a younger, adopted sibling?

Answer 1

Well if you're fostering, it'll be a whole lot easier because your daughter will be accustomed to the child. But it sounds to me like you need to become way more informed about adopting a foster child/older child. They will need some extra support and attention. Your daughter needs to be aware of this before hand because resentment can build quickly. Most likely your local children and youth services will require you to take classes before becoming a foster parent-see if your daughter can come to at least some of these.

Answer 2

You should ask your daughter how would she feel if she had another sibling.also talk to her about  it ,she will under stand.

Answer 3

have a mother and daughter talk?? tell her everything, bad news, good news, what's going to happen etc... she'll understand, if not now then later. but make sure you choose the right decision, cuz you don't want to adopt the kid then give them back, :), that's is just not. my apologize.

                                                                           hope this help

Answer 4

talk to her and ask her to be understanding to the new adopted childs feelings.....ask her to accept that child no matter what and love her like she is already her sister....good luck

Answer 5

Well i think that you should just try and explain to her that you will have a new little sister to play with that is going to come to live with you two. Good Luck with everything.:)

Answer 6

Include her in every way you can, the adoption process, the meeting with child before adoption, decision making on what or how to set up the new childs room. You need to include ur biological daughter so she gets excited and feels she has a say in this and gets excited as you are. Don't force it, include her, and also start takling about rules expectations, getting along, and consiquences if they don't. Treat both equal.