How to prevent your husband from watching p**n?

Question

I want to know how I can prevent my husband from watching p**n because I feel as though it's disrespectful; especially after he keeps doing it anyway knowing how I feel. I'm a very attractive & s**y woman and I dress up in lingerie all the time for him. I even took some exotic pictures of myself for his birthday. I don't want to sound like his mother but isn't that disrespectful?

Answer 1

    Both my husband and I watched some p**n  a few times, laughed our a$$es off,  got bored and forgot  about it.  

Answer 2

Shave your beaver bald , get some decent sized implants and lose about 100 lbs....

Respectfully yours,

Mike Hunt

Answer 3

I am assuming that your husband is an adult, right?  If he is there is nothing you can do to PREVENT him from doing anything.  It is his choice and his free will.

If he continues to view p**n even when he knows it is hurting your marriage, then he is a p**n addict.  If you don't think so, look up the definition of "addiction" and you will see that he fits it.

Sadly, p**n is like "electronic crack" - addictive and destructive.  Without realizing it he is teaching himself what to be turned on by - soon a pretty face or shapely leg or cute butt won't do it anymore.  He won't even be able to be aroused by "real s*x", just like the crack addict's tolerance goes up so they use more and more.  He'll have to have weirder and more raunchy stuff just to get the same buzz.

You cannot do anything about his behavior, but you can decide what is acceptable to you, and act accordingly.  Would you sit at the dinner table with him while he was shooting up with heroin?  Addiction is addiction.  Draw your line, what he decides to do about it is totally up to him.  I guess you could say it is in his hands....

Answer 4

You can`t stop him. He likes what he likes. You have issues where it feels like a form of cheating, it`s not. Some guys just do it, that`s all. Watch it with him , you might get some ideas of your own.

Answer 5

If you've told him how you feel about it and he's not stopping, that's not fair.

Try talking to him again and really explain that it's disrespecting and you don't appreciate it.

I do agree with you that p**n is disrespectful. I really really hate p**n. No matter what anybody says, it's not something that a respectful husband should be doing. I really hope you can figure this out. I would be hurt too. :(

Answer 6

Did he say he would stop? does he watch it in favor of you? I can see how it is more of a threat than disrespect: what woman wants to compete with male idealization of women. But- most women do not look like that.

I highly doubt your husband would like to get a hold of those unmoving b*****s to massage like a rock. I doubt he would want to go near something in real life that has had all of that umm- use. The more you make a stink about it the more it is forbidden and that may hold appeal for some passive aggressive reason.

My first husband liked p**n, my current one not- that I know of anyway. I surely looked better when I was married in my early 20s than now, so that isn't it.

You are probably really s**y to him, but p**n turns him on. He isn't going anywhere. Ask him why he likes it, discuss it. Maybe you will even improve your own enjoyment.

Answer 7

Would you let him have a subscription with Playboy?  He is an adult and as long as he is looking a gals 18+ it is A-ok.  

Answer 8

you nagging him about it won't work, get over it, not a big deal in the big scheme of life

Answer 9

you can install NetDog p**n Filter : http://www.netdogsoft.com on the computer, netdog blocks all p**n quitely and automatically in the background when your husband's on the computer.

Answer 10

This is a conversation you two should have worked out long before you even got married, frankly. The truth is that you can't "prevent" him from doing it. You can discuss it with him, tell him how it makes you feel, and ask him to stop. If he does, then great. If he does not, well- you now know how much your husband respects your feelings. Maybe it is time to get some counseling. It's a lot cheaper than a divorce.

Good luck!

Answer 11

Find something about yourself that he doesn't like and offer to negotiate change within yourself in exchange for him to stop watching p**n.  

Otherwise, it's a control issue, and not negotiations.  If you're not willing to change something about yourself, then stop trying to tell him what to do.  Remember, in negotiation, HE has to decide what he wants in exchange for giving up something so important to him.  

Answer 12

You can't. I went through the same thing with my husband.  Now, he just watches them in the garage.  Perverts!

Answer 13

Mine does it, too.  He is deployed a lot so I think that is part of his problem.  I am also s**y and try my best to be his eye candy.  I agree it is disrespectful and they will appreciate our bodies less bc no matter how great we look...there is always someone else who looks better.  MEN (no I am not sexist...I know women have this problem, too but in our circumstances...men cause our grief)!

Answer 14

Sometimes we have to give a little to get a little.  Most women look at p**n as disgusting and almost cheating, but you can use it to your advantage by being smart. Look at it with him and allow both of you to touch a dirty side of you that may be buried somewhere.  His attention will leave the screen and focus on what's in front of him.  Just to keep you from feeling left out, find the kind that interest you both.  After a couple of times, you can create your own fun play movies of your own.

Answer 15

P*rn is for men who are bored.  Get him involved in something.  Maybe something with you.  Go to the movies, go to dinner.  Take up his time with more productive things and he won't even think about it.  Like the old saying, "idle hands are the tools of the devil."  In this case it is the mind instead of the hands.

Answer 16

You do not sound like his mother , you sound a bit immature actually.

Answer 17

Depends on your relationship.  If the worst thing he does is look at p**n...there probably aren't many problems.  

If he spurns you in favor of p**n, there are problems.  

You may enjoy watching and participating with him.  Try it out.

Answer 18

Join him. Try doing some of the stuff to him. Make it worth being with you rather than watching the p**n

Answer 19

u are entitled to your opinion, he is entitled to watch p**n.  if u knew about it before marriage, then u should have made a decision then, if u didn't, now u have to decide how much you are willing to tolerate and if it makes you that uncomfortable.  p**n would have been a dealbreaker for me if i'd have known.

Answer 20

It is somewhat disrespectfulul if he knows your not into it, but I guess you could look at it this way, at least he is at home and not out doing it.

Answer 21

Yes, its very disrespectful to you knowing how you feel about it. I wish I knew what to tell you. Is it serious enough that you consider leaving him? Maybe ask him why he feels he needs to watch p**n when he has you there to satisfy him. I can see how it would be a problem, I just wish I had an answer. Obviously you have tried to show him what he has right there with him and that didn't work. It may be a bad suggestion, but maybe you should try to show him how it feels. Let him catch you watching p**n involving men who are well endowed and maybe he will get jealous and get your point. Men are very easily intimidated by thinking their wife/girlfriend is turned on by other men. A taste of his own medicine may be what it takes. Thing about that is, it could backfire! He may love the fact that you are watching it too! Hope this helps a little. Good luck!

Answer 22

Look, men are visual creatures. I used to be all uptight about my husband watching p**n. Used to be all jealous of the "perfect women" in the movies and pictures. But you know what, those women look like $hit in real life. They are human. I don't know what to tell you because I ended up just accepting the p**n and it doesn't matter to me now if that is what he wants to do. At least he is with someone he loves when he isn't with me....Himself.

Answer 23

Why?...I'd join him.

Answer 24

I don't personally think it's disrespectful...I have never had a problem with my BF watching it. I have no idea how often he does and I don't ask, as long as he is attentive and we are having s*x regularly...that's me.

If you've asked him to stop and explained that you don't like it there's not a whole lot you can do. And I hate to say this but he'll probably end up lying to you and telling you he DID stop when he hasn't. Did he watch it before you all were married?

It's not YOU. I am sure you are s**y and great...men watch p**n for the fantasy of it...I think anyway. They don't know those women and I know in my BF case, he's probably seeing some stuff on p**n that he knows I would never go for...(ie. girl on girl...anal...him finishing on my face...you get it).

Answer 25

Relax. He is not cheating with another woman all he is doing is watching p**n.

Answer 26

You don't like it but it is a biological process for guys.  Ask him to stop breathing next.

Answer 27

So he keeps watching p**n after you've asked him not to?  

Good for him, unless he's 11 years old.  I've yet to see a man on here complaining about ANYTHING a wife watches, reads, or thinks.

That's 'cause we DO respect your personal decisions. We may not like the foolish things you find entertaining, but we recognize that it is YOUR choice.

PS...who DOES respect control freaks, anyways?

Also, why do women get hung up on that stupid American Idol show?  That is worse than hard core p**n, anyday.  

Answer 28

You can't. He's a man. That's what men, and many women, do. It's not disrespectful, it has nothing to do with you, and it doesn't mean you're not good enough for him. It just means he needs some fantasy time.

Answer 29

p**n slowly destroys marriages. It is like crack