How to provide discipline for 8yr old boy who totally disrespects his mom?

Question

my daughter is in school full time single parent of 2 3&8 the oldest seems to think everything she does is his busness swats at school I've never seen the fit I've sure heard it alot on the phone now he has to come to me if she can't handle him any ideas

Answer 1

I never understand why parents wait about 8 years to start asking how they are supposed to finally take the reigns of their relationship with their children.  The process starts on day one.  If you fail to impliment "laws" and have consistent consequences when they are broken, you will end up with a child who will either be unruly or who will appear angelic but they are actually manipulative and end up taking advantage of you.  If you have to start half way through their upbringing, then you have to create a list of rules you expect to be followed and a list of responsibilities you expect to be accomplished daily.  The rules/responsibilities should be realistic.  If the child does not follow them or complete them, there should be a consequence the child will not like.  Start taking "x" amount of toys away each day.  If you have to, clean out their room until the only thing they have left is a bed, dresser and clothes.  Make them earn their toys and belongings back through good behavior and following of the rules.  If that doesnt work (their room is completely empty and they still wont do what they should), start boot camp techniques.  Tell the child they have to do push ups, laps around the house, toilet scrubbing, sit ups, etc.  If the tell you no, have them do their homework, eat dinner and go straight to bed with the lights out.  Eventually the routine will get old to them.

If all else fails, try researching professional boot camps for children.  They will be able to instill values, morals, appreciation and respect back into him in no time!

Answer 2

Beat his *** next time he does anything, especially in a public place. If he is attacking up there like a place like kroger pull his pants down in the middle of the store and beat his *** untill it red. He will not do it agian trust me. If he continues send the little brat to bootcamp see if that changes his mind.

Answer 3

try a spanking.

Answer 4

Well, he's not too old to spank and one good spanking from grandmother might make him behave better for his mother. Humiliation works wonders when all else fails.

Answer 5

A spaking would probably work.

Answer 6

I DON'T PEOPLE AFRAID 2 BEAT THEY KIDS .TEAR THEY BEHIND UP DON'T LET NONE OF YA KIDS GET SMART OR EVEN HIT U.TAKE ALL HIS STUFF OUT OF THEIR ROOM EXCEPT THE FOLLOWING:

A BED

CLOTHES

SHOES

LIGHT

IF THEY WANT TO ACT UP THEY DON'T NEED A

TV

GAME

RADIO

IPOD/MP3

NOTHING THAT THEY ENJOY DOIN

DON'T U KNOW U GO 2 WORK EVERYDAY AND THEY GO TO SCHOOL

U WORKIN HARD 2 TO GET THEM WAT THEY NEED AND WANT ,A THEY DECIDE 2 GET SMART ORHIT AND EVEN ACT UP IN SCHOOL.THEY WANNA ACT UP U CAN DO IT RIGHT ALONG WIT THEM.

TELL HIM/HER TO COME STRAIGHT HOME DO YOUR HOME WORK GET WASH UP EAT DINNER AND GO 2 BED

IF U LET THEM DO WATEVA THEY GONNA THINK THEY CAN AND THEY RULE U OH NO THATS NO GONNA HAPPEN

BUT SOMETIMES 2 U IF SOMETHING HAPPENS U HAVE TO TALK IT OUUT SOMETIMES CAUSE IT CAN BE A MISS UNDERSTANDING!!!GOOD LUCK

Answer 7

beat the kids!!

Answer 8

try spanking him on the bottom SAY TO HIM SON YOU GETTING A SPANKING IF YOU DON'T STOP BEING DISRESPECT FULL TO ME

Answer 9

These punishments will work . If he senses any kind of hesitation or defeat from his mom then he is going to play on it...call the cops on him . If he is out of control his mom needs to stand firm and do what she needs to do to get control of him. Calling the cops will be strickly to get his attention and let him know that his mom means what she says.

Answer 10

Start him with a mattress on the floor, sheets and (if you keep the heat low) a blanket

two changes of clothing for school, one for church, and one for play

basic tolietries (toothbrush, soap, shampoo)

School supplies.

Everything else he earns.  Starting with his pillow.  Then his bedframe.

If he does something stupid take the mattress.

While he is there put all media someplace he can't go until he earns it 15 minutes at a time.

Spend quality time with him, doing things you can do and talk at the same time (painting, paper mache, fishing, catch, local park or pool, basketball, etc.)

Involve him in housework, not as a punishment but in a 'we're all on the same team so we all help out' attitude.

If he knows that you are serious (which he will if he doesn't have the toys), but you really care about him (invest the time) he will come around.

Answer 11

wow!!   nothing is better than spanking the he!! out of them! and yes public is best. is is not agais tthe law to spank so DO IT!!!    A LOT!!! and take all of his sh*t away! if he is going to be disrespectful then he doesn;t desrve anything. a bed maybe but htat is even pushing it sometimes. he need to learn who is boss and it AINT HIM!   mine bigger ones are 2 3 and 7 and when they are naughty they get the  bare butts spanked. and they learn. no matter where they are. jsut cause we are in the store doesn't mean mommy doesn' t mean bussiness! they get it there too. it embarresign for the 7 year old and it worked he shuts up and is  good the rest of the time.  that is my dest advice   SPANK THEM TILL THEY CRY!