How to punish misbehaving teen?

Question

Hello,

I am the mother of 2 girls, 3 and 14 years old.

My 3-year old is in the stage of potty-training right now; however my 14 year old has already pulled several pranks on the toddler (putting plastic wrap over the seat, so pee flows everywhere; picking my youngster up just as she is about to sit down, bare butt, and spanking her; pulling my toddlers pants up just as she is about to pull them down; picking up my baby while she is on the potty, and carrying her all the way across to a corner of the room, so she pees herself). Most of the times, I am right there to witness it: My younger daughter usually bursts out crying uncontrollably, while my older one laughs and laughs and laughs.I tell my older one to go in her room for the rest of the afternoon, yet she ignores me and spanks the toddler on the bare butt very hardly. Then, i will usually grab the older one by her arm, in an attempt to drag her to her room, however she will slap me, kick the toddler (sometimes),and go outside for the rest of the day, sleeping over at her friend's house without letting me know.

Sometimes, when I let her babysi her younger sister, I come home to find the toddler telling me horror stories about her big sister spanking her.

I don't know what to do anymore!!

I am very desperate as you can see.

How should i punish her??

serious answers only please

Answer 1

this teen ager needs to see a counsler asap... she has issues surrounding your youngest and if you continue to allow her to abuse your younger child she will end up hurting her or worse kill her...then she will end up in jail and you will tooo.. because you are allowing this to happen.... at this age spanking her wont work, taking her things away wont work and neither will grounding her.... she is a danger to your 2 yr old and needs to be contained away from you two for a few weeks in a controlled enviroment... i suggest a mental hospital for teens... you need to do this even if you dont want to. you and your two yr old need some peace... take her to the ER when she is out of controll and tell them she needs to be admited to a syke ward for teens for a few weeks and needs counsling.. tell then you are in fear for your life as well as your two yr olds...

be prepared for social services to get involved beacuse they will. be very discrete about what you tell them and let them place her in a mental hospital for a few weeks...

ITS A MUST ... DO IT..

cheers

mystic

Answer 2

she resents the toddler for taking all your attention , she doesnt love her little sister atm , you have to teach her to love her sister. encorage her to do things that her and the tot can do , like swimming , baking cookies etc

the hitting has to stop though , tell her she either starts behaving or she will have to leave the house because your toddler will be scarred for life is this doesnt stop.

Answer 3

LACK OF ATTENTION!!!!!

maybe she feels jealous cause u pay attetion to the baby instead of her.?

Answer 4

Hmmm, forgive me for harbouring faint suspicions that your 'problem' is fabricated but then again the truth is often stranger than fiction so I will take you at your word and comment on this very serious situation.

If you have ever heard of Sigmund Freud and his seminal work in psychology you will doubtless be aware that the toilet training stage is absoultely critical to the psychical development of a child.  That your little girl is being brutalised while attempting to master a delicate and embarrassing natural skill can only lead to negative long-term effects.  Defecating, urinating etc will become associated with pusnishment in this child and thus guilt.  Without go into the intricacies of the geneis of obsessional neurosis, your daughter potentially will have a Howard Hughes-esque neurosis.  I myself unconscioulsy learned that micturation was a filthy act (because of similar 'pranks' played on me) and now I can only urinate in a sink as it's cleaner than a filthy toilet bowl.  That's not trying to be flippant or disgusting, just the sad reality.  

This older girl appears to wield all the power in your house; how has this come to pass.  She obviously gains some sexual satisfaction from inflicting pain on her younger sister and also enjoys thumbing her nose at your authority (which is sadly marked absent). Tie her down (though sadly I suspect she might not struggle that hard), strip off her jeans and panties and roast that teenage bum of hers.  

Answer 5

if she carries on in this manner get  two or three of your friends over and say to her every time you hurt your sister this is what im going to do to you get your friends to hold her down while you strip her she will hate this then tie her hands put her over your knee and spank her hard belive me this wil improve her behavior  

Answer 6

First of all I would never let this girl baby-sit the toddler again. After hearing the first "horror story" I would never trust her  to care for her little sister. It sounds like she's physically abusing (as well as emotionally) your little one. This girl needs some help asap. She needs knocked into next week to be honest but that probably isn't the way to go. Get her some help..in-patient if needed. She has anger issues and taking it all out on a 3 year old at her age is just plain disturbing.  

Answer 7

Let's see a month ago you told us you were 15 and weighted 88 pounds.

Then you asked boys if they'd prefer to date a chubby or a skinny girl.

Now you are a Mom.

Very confusing.

Answer 8

I think it is time Big Sister gets a spanking---I'm serious.