How to raise my son to be a responsible and moral person when his father is a drop out who still smokes pot?

Question

I split with my ex about 6 months ago, primarily because he wasn't growing up and after having our son I did. He seems more interested in having fun then spending time with his son and although he is now in his early 30's he continues to smoke marijuana regularly (not around our son) with no intention of ever stopping because he says "I like living my life this way and see nothing wrong with it."

He has a job as a car salesman and isn't doing well since the economy hasn't been doing good, but he doesn't try to get his GED and maybe find something better. He just keeps doing the same thing and continues to take his days off to go to concerts and go wak-boarding, etc. even though he hasn't sold a car and his income is solely commision.

Anyway, I'm frustrated because I'm looking at the example he is for our son. He's a nice person but selfish and irresponsible even after having a child. How can I ensure my son grows up to be intelligent and responsible and driven to do better?

Answer 1

You seem to be a sensible person  you may need to be the primary role model as far as other male figures in you child’s life hopefully he can spend time with a grandfather or uncle or something along those lines

Answer 2

To be honest, your son would be better off without his dad in his life if he is still taking drugs.

I would also tell his dad, that unless he stops taking drugs that you are going to stop him seeing his son.

Then it would bup to his dad to decide what is more important.