How to raise self confidence and esteem?

Question

Are there some ways to raise self esteem and confidence. For years i have felt like the biggest loser especially socially and with women. My last relationship ended with her telling me that she didn't love me, never would and never has. That happened on my birthday. Then on a date about a month ago the woman i was with said "I don't find you all that attractive". So you can see my self esteem is totally c**p and it wasn't very good to begin with.

My dance instructor is always asking me to ask women to dance. ITs something i just cant do. In the past i had women laugh at me and walk away or say some really bitchy things like "with you i dont think so" or I was to old or to fat.

Thanks for your help

Answer 1

To encourage self-esteem simply list all of your accomplishments, from the smallest thing to the largest achievement you have done.  Then, each day read through the list of what you have achieved and include an affirmation at the end, something like, "I have achieved all of these things and I can achieve even more."

Find an area of interest where there are many opportunities to socialise and make a large group of deep friendships.  

Answer 2

Think of the biggest loser in the world and compare him to you

Go on a diet if you think your fat

Sing in front of the Mirror

write a list of the things you are good at and you like about yourself and tape it to your door so every time you walk through it you'll see it and read it, and it'll make your day be a little brighter...

other than that, if you keep getting told you are un-attractive at parties/dances ask a not-so-pretty lady to dance....she would never tell you that