How to recover from failure/depression?

Question

Have been unemployed for the past 5-6 months. Engagement ended due to an unfaithful, untruthful fiance. Trying to enter a law enforcement career (police officer). Recently failed the polygraph/background check of one agency. There is nothing else I want to do. I see no way out of this depressing quagmire.

Answer 1

The fact that you actually used quagmire in a sentence should at least make you smirk. If it doesn't, go watch some Family Guy.

Time is honestly the only thing that will heal you totally. In the mean time you can take some steps to help expidite this process.  

You should take up a hobby. Yoga is relaxing and has the added benefit of toning your body, or maybe a computer game like GuildWars where you can interact with other players. This can relieve boredom when you've been alone for a while.

You should also get yourself back out onto the "scene". No matter how old you are, you're never to old to flirt. And the added ego boost when someone flirts back feels good too.

Re-find yourself, and re-find old friends and aquaintances whom you've lost touch with. They can also help lead you into a broader social circle, thereby expanding your chances of finding someone again, when the time is right.

Revamp - Changing your look can boost confidence, especially if friends and co-workers are delited by the outcome. Get a new hair-style, go get a tan, whatever works for you, that you think will improve your self-view. Eyebrow shaping makes a big difference and is about $18.

Try becoming a security guard, or something else similar until you can retake the test. Most companies have a re-test policy. Check into it.

And in the future, make sure you choose your mate because of similarities in morals and interests, and having them as a friend first helps you see their real character, whereas explosive relationships have explosive breakups. ie. great lust = great hate in the end.

oh, and for a laugh go to perezhilton.com and look up Paris Hiltons response to McCain. It's way too funny.