A bit long, but I REALLY need some advice.
My father recently ended his 9 year relationship with his fiance. When he called to tell me this he said that it was mutual~ They just had two different lives, they had grown apart etc.
Over 9 years they built quite a little life together. They owned there own home, a boat, 2 vehicles etc.. My dad's a successful business owner and she's in the political world. My dad has dated many women since divorcing my mother 15 years ago. And this one: lets call her "Mary" seemed to be the permanent one.. 9 years Thats quite a while and they appeared happy. Infact the happiest I've ever seen my father.
Mary is close with my young children oldest is 10 youngest is 4 and me and my husband as well.. She became a part of our family- a permanent member. Now, being that I'm an adult I know my dad's life is his own and whatever he chooses to do in it is really not any of my business- Normally I am fine with that fact.
HOWEVER. It has come to my attention that my dad has someone 'new' in his life. She's already met my grandmother (his mother) thats a sign of a level of seriousness in my family. My grandmother is the one who told me--He's yet to break the news to me and this is why--
1. This "woman" is 61, my father is 47
2. Its only been a few weeks since the split of "Mary" and Him. Which turns out WAS NOT mutual. He began "working late", hating the things they normally enjoyed together, strange behaviour --all the classic signs of interference.
3. The new woman/ soon to be senior citizen has been a customer of my father for years.
4. My father has completely ostersized and alienated "Mary" out of the family- claiming she's "crazy" and bitter.
I know my father..well. He is no stranger to seeking "greener pastures"
I'm a woman, and I believe what "mary' was suspicious of was in fact happening. After all.. my father seems to have moved on rather quickly..too quickly if you ask me.
Its def raised some eyebrows in our family. So I guess I'm looking for advice on how to deal with this? I feel like there is no way I can possibly EVER respect or even like/tolerate this homewrecker. What else can I say when i meet her for the first time besides "Oh great dad how nice, you're dating a pile of wasted human flesh with no respect for others 'nor herself. How classy!" She is more than likely using him, and I believe he deserves WAY better than some piece of wrinkly home wrecking trash. I also don't want my children around this woman- they will be confused they are attached to and love "mary" so much. They don't know about the break up yet.
HELP!
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