How to say no to drugs without offending?

Question

Okay, I liked this one guy and kinda wanted to date him but anyways, so he does drugs every weekend and pot I think during the week. So I went to a party with him, thing I'll point out is I don't do drugs. I won't even smoke pot, not a hit.. I basically don't want to end up like my mom. so anyways he did a line of, I honestly don't know, then offered me a line I said no and then he made it seem like I was judging him just because I didn't want to do it. This does happen sometimes, cause my friends do drugs on the occasion and some of them almost try make me feel bad. I know "Don't hang out with druggies" thing is they're not, and they're not bad people either, but I mean.. How can I say no without making it seem like I'm judging them or whatever? I honestly believe do what you want to your own body, it should be every bodies right, you may not agree with me but that's my OPINION. I don't really care too much if people think I'm a loser for not doing drugs I just I dunno, I don't want to make myself or others uncomfortable ya know? I mean all I said was "No thank-you" and I offended >.<

Answer 1

I am sorry, but anyone who asks you if you want drugs doesn&#039;t deserve to be considered at all.  Offend them all you can!  They need to stop being so stupid and foolish!  In addition to the illegality and the absolute idiocy of their risking their lives, and the lives of others.  If people want to make you feel bad, then you need to just ignore them.  If everyone was going to jump off a building, would you go with them?   If they were going to step into the pathway of a fast moving train, would you join them?  They are the ones who are dumb.  Don&#039;t worry about offending them.  Just say no! That is enough.  Maybe it is time to find some people to hang out with who are not doing this kind of stuff.  I know it is important to have friends, but they are not more important than your life.  And I know it is hard to believe, but one day, you will be really grateful that you acted so wisely.   Good luck!  By the way, do their parents know they are doing this stuff???  What do you think they would say???

Answer 2

If your &#039;friends&#039; are pressuring you to do drugs, they probably don&#039;t have your best intentions at heart.  I&#039;m not against responsible recreational drug use, I AM against peer pressure.  If you don&#039;t want to experiment, that is that.  You may want to approach them one at a time (so it is less overwhelming) and explain that trying to pressure you they are forcing you to choose between them any your own convictions.  Peer pressure is just rude.  You did not offend by politely refusing - they offended by acting offended.  Look at it like this, if you offered them chocolate ice cream and they didn&#039;t want it for whatever reason, would you be offended?  Should anybody be offended?  No.  No one (besides the occasional Jewish grandmother) throws guilt trips if you don&#039;t accept the offered &#039;treat&#039;.  They really need to get over that.  Many users feel that if someone near them is not indulging then they are judging.  Usually that is just their insecurities at work and you are not responsible for that.

Answer 3

I just don&#039;t care if people who are doing drugs would be offended by anything.  They don&#039;t have a right to be offended by anything I say.  They do drugs, for Chr*st&#039;s sake!

Answer 4

Don&#039;t just say No,  say, &quot; L-No&quot;

Answer 5

You need new friends. If something happened while you were there you are guilty by association. They may not be bad people but they are not following the law and are encouraging you not follow the law. Do not worry about offending someone asking you to do drugs! They don&#039;t care about offending you by doing drugs in front of you when they know you don&#039;t want to. I suggest you do not hang around at parties etc unless they are sober. It is safer for you. Try to explain whatever happened with your mom so they won&#039;t judge you as being stuck up (by don&#039;t care what they think!) but that you are speaking from personal experience. Stick to your values- years down the road when you life is great and your friends are in jail, dead or going no where you will be proud of yourself.