How to spruce my marriage up?

Question

we been married for about 4 years he is talking about kids and im scared to death how do we turn to makiing kids more fun then making it a chore its gotten to the point to where i want s*x once a month to keep from having a baby

Answer 1

If you don't want kids, don't have them

Talk to your husband about this

If you do want kids, let nature take its course, don't bother witht he tempeture taking and ovulation counting.  Just do it when you feel like doing it

Answer 2

Sounds very butch to me .

Marriage is not your thing then .

Answer 3

oh you just shut the **** up! refraining from s*x? and then what you're going to be an old rotten person without the desire for s*x? well thats your life buddy, not mine

Answer 4

Honey talk to your husband and tell him how you feel.

My husband and I are trying to conceive and I got to tell you I love it. We are  having s*x left and right and trying new things to spruce it up and make it interesting. Some people make trying to conceive a chore. I feel that if we have s*x with out protection it will eventually happen and try not to think about it so much so that it doesn't become routine.

But anyways talk to your hubby and find out interests or fetishes he has and let him know what sexual desires you have and bring that to your bedroom. Try different positions and different areas in the house that you normally don't have s*x in and just do it there. Just make s*x fun. Just this past weekend me and my husband had s*x on our side deck of course it was at night time so no one was able to see us. But just the fact that we were kinda being naughty and having s*x someplace we weren't suppose to be doing it made it all the more interesting and spontaneous.

Good luck to you!

Answer 5

Sorry you had an idiot to answer first.  First of all, if you aren't sure you want children yet, you should really discuss this with your husband.  Express how you feel and your fears.  Having children is a huge responsibility, but it is so very much worth it!  I'm a young grandmother of one (40) and that's the best part of having children, the grandchildren!  But relax, take a nice hot bubble bath, set the mood and try not to think about getting pregnant.  Don't make it a chore, many do this when trying for children.  Get to know your cycle and when you ovulate.  Either avoid that time if you really don't want children yet, or tell yourself you aren't doing this to get pregnant, you are doing this to be close to your spouse.  Make love to your spouse without thinking about anything else.  I really would suggest setting the mood and relaxing yourself early on.  As I suggested, bubble bath, candles, music, glass of wine...and try to only think about the wonderful times the two of you have had in the past.  Good Luck!

Answer 6

I think the real question is why don't you want a baby?  Did you talk about kids before you got married?  If you both said you wanted them, after 4 years it is about time to start trying.  Trust me, there is no better feeling than seeing the little one look into your eyes with complete trust and adoration!  Anyone is capable of being a good parent...but you must want to be a good one first!  You definitely need to talk to your hubby about this and let him know why you are abstaining from s*x...he is probably really worried about your relationship and if you are being faithful.