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How to stop being insecure about my body?

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First of all, I am thin. I am 5'4 and 105. So this basically mean I am flat chested and a bit bony. But for some strange reason, my butt and thighs hold all the fat I do have. I look out of proportion and gross. It is really depressing me. I try working out, and I don't know what else to do. I FOR SURE don't need to loose weight. How can I look amazing and love myself again?

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  1. First of all you don't need to lose weight, you're actually below weight. But if you WANT to lose weight and it will make you happier with yourself, go for it. Just know that you are not overweight by any means. I think the problem is that you are being to harsh on yourself. To feel better about yourself focus on the things you do like about yourself rather than the things you want to change. Instead of looking in the mirror and saying "Oh my gosh my butt is too big", look in the mirror and admire and appreciate your flat stomach which many girls would kill for. In today's society girls feel like they need to be perfect and live up to the standards of runway models. Not true. Love your body, embrace your thick thighs. (Which can't be all of that thick since you're only 105 pounds!). Accept yourself for who you are. You can always strive to look better, but don't ever be down on yourself just because you aren't perfect. No one is. Set realistic goals for yourself, not impossible ones. Look at other undesirable woman and say to yourself, "I'm glad I don't look like that", as opposed to looking at magazines and feeling terrible because you want to look like them.


  2. Let us see what category you are in, for this exact purpose I will say that you are 19 years old, this will give us few answers and eliminate few doubts. Let us go to the sites, and put the data in. You never stop growing as far as puting some meat on you, only the height is at risk after 30 years.

    http://www.halls.md/ideal-weight/body.ht...

    This site has two answers they are, per Peoples Choice Ideal Weight: Your weight should be 109, and per Medical Recommendation: It should be between 111- and 146.

    http://www.halls.md/body-mass-index/bmi....

    Above site puts you in the normal range, very close to under weight. This is very good and healthy, doctors use both this sites.

    So you need to do nothing but just go to a library and find body parts specific exercises and do it. Include, bic rides on regular bases and swimming.

    Clothing and padded items in the mean time can do wonders for you till you see the results, or at later date plastic surgery can give you what you want(at 30 years and over).

    Looks is in the eyes of beholder and I am sure quite a few girls around you kill to get your looks.

    But read the articles and surf the sites and come up with the program to match your life style. Just re-evaluate your mind set.

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    Body Building

    BY

    minootoo

    You are blessed.

    Most people put on weight after age 40.

    Any way before you try any thing, see a doctor to rule out any abnormalities (Hormone, Pituitary).

    Remember it is ten times easier to put on the weight then to take it off.  

    Body building is opposite of weight loss. But you must understand weight loss in order to build body.

    I will include my article on weight loss also.

    Most people eat protein reach food and complex carbohydrates, with one thing in mind, that they have to exercise 6 days a week and they have to eat more than what they burn off each day.

    If you eat about 300 to 400 more calories per day then you burn off, you have a weight gain of slightly less than one pound per week.

    You need to eat about 4000 calories per day minimum.

    If that does not work than slow down your exercises routine.

    In extreme case you will not exercises for two weeks at all, followed by vigorous exercises routine for six weeks. Repeat this cycle again and again till you reach your goal.

    References:

    http://search.yahoo.com/search?ei=utf-8&...

    http://www.scientificpsychic.com/fitness...

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    Increasing the Height

    By

    minootoo

    In rare cases, you can increase the height up to age 30.

    Cycling is good exercise and fun too.

    You need to adjust the seat so that when you paddle from seating position you will actually stretch your legs, it is a difficult position but doable. For safety you need to be on track and not in traffic, safety first.

    The FEW things I did at least helped me.

    Swimming.

    Not just playing in water, but serious laps type swimming, do not try to beat the clock but steady full strokes swimming. Remember slow and steady wins the race.

    Stretching exercises on floor.

    Find them on line.

    Chin ups.

    Full stretch type.

    Swinging from a rope.

    Full stretch climbing.

    In other words do things that require stretching.

    STRETCH-STRETCH-STRETCH-STRETCH

    PS

    In the morning after good night sleep every one is about 1/2 inch to 1 inch taller. This is because the soft tissue between the bones recovers during the time when there is no weight on them.

    Older people loose height due to bone loss. I was 5', 7'' I am only 5', 5".

    Issue of Genes:

    You know only the active genes but genes can stay dormant for generations.

    I believe that every one has some tall height genes, dormant or active; I again believe that certain exercises can activate those.

    Again Swimming:

    You will start out with half a lap and build up day by day, half a lap at a time. Then you will swim non stop for 1/2 an hour.

    The speed is not important but you must use various strokes and do them correctly, completely, slowly and perfectly. This way you will have full stretch, and its benefit.

    Eating healthy foods and taking rest as specially sleeping soundly at night is very important. Most people need 8 hours of good sound sleep per night, some need more and few get by with 4 hours only.

    In the mean time use high hills and take advantage of hair-do, wardrobe can do wonders too; vertical striped clothing can create a taller look for most people.

    Hormones:

    Under strict supervision of a doctor they do wonders but the side effects are delayed and unpredictable so doctors do not like to use them.

    Surgical Procedures:

    There are surgical procedures but most doctors will not do them till the person is 30 years or so. They also have to be very short.

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    Tis is for info only, it explains body weight mechanics. So just read it.

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    Life Style Change Program for Loosing Weight

    By

    minootoo

    Who needs to loose weight?

    Answer is simply not every one, only the over weight person.

    Who is over weight?

    This is simple, it is easy to find out and it is available on line, it is call Body Mass Index, and calculations are simple. According to this calculation if you find your self say only 10 pounds more, you may not be over weight. Remember every one is slightly different and you can just watch it, on your own and not let it get out of hand.

    What is the reason for being over weight?

    This is also simple, have doctor check you out for any physical or hormonal abnormalities. The doctor should be advising you of your ideal weight even though you have already figured out the ideal weight and you are seen a doctor because your weight is not where it should be according to BMI.

    Basic understanding of loosing weight.

    Every one uses calories at all time. There may be some exceptions to this rule, for most of us; the rate of use, even when we are resting, we use 65 calories per hour minimum. This comes to1560 calories per day. The actual range is between 65 and 100 calories per hour. This is consistent with heart rate of 60 to 80 bits per minute.

    Simply put any person eating only say 1500 calories a day, and moderately active, will not put on any additional weight. At this level of calories consumption the person should loose some weight over long haul, depending on the individual rate of metabolism.

    What is a healthy weight loss?

    When one tries to loose weight, one should loose excess fat; there should be a healthy loss of weight. Loosing muscles tissue is unhealthy.

    How much is one pound of body fat?

    One pound of body fat weight is approximately same as one pound of butter. If you look at a one pound package of butter, you will see it contains between 3200 to 3600 calories. This means that each time a person burns 3600 more calories then what the person takes in, the person will loose one pound.

    How many pounds should a person loose in a month?

    Any one that is trying to trim down can figure out how long it took to put on the excess pounds. The fact is; it did not happen over night. It usually creeps up, but the person realizes one day suddenly.

    This is why a person should not be in a hurry to loose weight. The person should start at once but go slowly. Do not wait for New Year.

    Taking above in to consideration a person should not loose more then 2 pounds per month. If a person looses any thing more then that, chances are that the person will not be able to maintain the weight loss. It will take extra efforts to loose and it will take extra efforts to keep it off. Remember slow and steady wins the race.

    When an overweight person should start loosing weight?

    At once. The person should not be in a hurry to loose weight. The person should start at once but go slowly. Again do not wait for New Year.

    How does body react to weight lose?

    Any time there is depletion of fat beyond certain level, the body reacts by slowing down metabolism, so that it can build up fat. If the body is use to say 2000 calories per day and detects only 1500 calories per day for considerable length of time it reacts to the situation by reducing the rate of metabolism. When this happens one need to help body by increasing activity. Usually takes about four weeks for body to react.

    What is the relationship between body and body fat?

    Under ideal condition fat act as a reserved energy source for our body. Certain level of fat is good for healthy living and even may save our life in certain life threatening situations. Every one should have minimum required level of fat on their body.

    What if there is no weight loss at 1500 calories in take level?

    This is a rear occurrence. Do not panic. The body has slowed down the metabolism to such a great extent that you must help it. The only way to help is to increase activities, this means you have to exercise. You do not need to join Gym but you can go on an an half an hour walk every day or batter still engage in a power walk for same duration. Power walk burns 250 calories per mile and walk burns 100 calories per mile approximately.

    What is the importance of body fat for a female?

    Females require little more body fat then men. In the absence of certain required level of body fat, females are not able to function properly; in particular they may not be able to conceive. You can find lot more about this on internet.

    At 1500 calories intake per day what one must drink and eat?

    Drink

    One gallon of liquids most of witch should be in the form of water (zero calories).

    Calories should be accounted for all other liquids.

    Why water?

    Water is a universal solvent, means it dissolves almost every thing at least in very minute quantities. This helps purification of body.

    Eat

    What should be your proportionate in take of fat, Proteins and Complex Carbohydrates?

    This depends on what your need are.

    1. Need to increase fat. Eat Fat, Carbs and protien

  3. Read 'Body Clutter' by Marla Cilley and Leanne Ely.  It's not about losing weight--Marla started flylady.net --FLY meaning Finally Loving Yourself.  She has some amazing insights into how people think, and how to change your stinkin' thinkin'.

    Good Luck!!

  4. Concentrate on the areas that need to be worked out, it's not about loosing the weight, it's about being toned, healthy looking and strong. The stronger and more toned you start getting, the more inspired you will be, giving you more confidence about yourself. You did not say how old are you? maybe you have not finished developing yet? I dont know.. it's based on your age.  I great friend of mine, she was very bony (skinny) and seem to have a big butt, it did not match her body and it actually made her look strange, well she started developing (growing) and she started to exercise also, I saw her about a year later(since I lived in another country) and WOW... Did she look AMAZING, her body had filled in the areas that it needed to.. That was many... years ago. to this day she still looks incerdible, because she keeps exercising..

    I hope things work out for you.

    Chao.

    Michael...

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