How to stop bullying in class

Question

This is a weird situation an older girl (10) is being bullied by a younger girl (8) in my karate class. The younger girl will pull on her braids, get to close and "accidentaly" kick her give her indian rugburns while running . The older girl will try and draw attention to herself but when she finaly does catch the teachers eye she will just turn away and pretend there is no problem. I am getting sick of this I have told the instructors but there hasn't been any progress. I am 16 years old and a student/ kinda teacher and I am going to talk to her once and for all what should I say so that I don't have to deal with this any more and what should I tell the older girl so I don't have to fight her battles for her , I will not let someone be bullied but I also can't stand to watch someone be bullied and do absolutly nothing about it, she won't even tell the other girl to stop. Please Help.

Answer 1

Beat up the eight year old.

Answer 2

I would say the 10-year-old is probably embarrased that she is being bullied by a younger girl, and the 8-year-old knows it.  If you are a teacher, I would recommend watching for the bullying.  When you see it happen, intervene.  Make sure the 8-year-old knows that you saw what she did.  Remove her from the lesson, place her in a chair or in a corner away from the rest of the class.  Do not allow her to rejoin until she has sat quietly there for at least 8 minutes.  Explain to her why you are doing this even though it should be obvious.  Make her apologize after her 8 minutes are up and explain again why you put her there.

If you are not a formal teacher or a person with an established authority in the class then tell the instructor.  Explain to him that you have seen bullying take place and ask that he keep a watchful eye on the two girls so that he can stop the bullying.

Let the 10-year-old know that she does not have to tolerate the behavior of the other girl and that standing up for herself is nothing to be avoided.

These children are in martial arts to learn defense and discipline, not to learn how to hurt each other.  This behavior is compeltely unacceptable.

Also, make sure you explain to the 8-year-old's parents what she is doing during the class.

Answer 3

Perhaps the ten year old is mature enough to know that the eight year old may not know any better and is waiting for someone like yourself to step in and police the situation.  I can also tell you that you should as the eight year old is doing this probably either out of spite or just to get attention and this is the only way that she may know how to.  Take her aside and sit her down and tell her that such behavior is not acceptable and if she wants people to like her or be her friend then she needs to treat them better.  If not they won't be her friend and if she continues to misbehave you are going to give her a time out in the corner.  You might also explain to her that such behavior on a regular basis really makes her a brat and that you are sure that she does not want to be thought of in that light.  If this does not work then bring it to the attention of your instructor and tell him you propose giving her a time out in class the next time she misbehaves.  Sometimes such behavior can lead to more serious, agressive, type behavior if it is not placed in check and if this is the case then it will soon become readily apparent and such students usually lose you other students if they are not brought into line and can even injure other students as they get older.  

Answer 4

this is why karate dojos gain the reputation of "day care" centers.

notify the instructor then mind your own business.  if you weren't an instructor/semi-instructor yourself I would say mind your own business, you are there to learn and train not get involved with perosnality conflicts and dojo politics.

as a semi-teacher, notifiying the instructors is enough, you have done your job.

Answer 5

$500 say if the 10 year old gives the 8 year old a nice side kick to the face she'll quit picking on her. It's a Karate class, use it!

Answer 6

Tell the kid to watch the Karate Kid ... then she will know what happens to bullies!  oh jk jk

Answer 7

Let the girl get beat up it will provide her the will to become bigger faster and stronger and one day she will challenge the younger girl to a match and kick the c**p out of her.

Answer 8

Talk to the 8 year old and tell her that her behavior is unacceptable.

Answer 9

Are you comfortable with the 10-year-old? Is she comfortable with you? You might consider approaching her with advice if you think she would be receptive. I think it would be inappropriate for you to intervene beyond that point, although you're clearly very compassionate for wanting to do so.

Is there another instructor you can speak to? If you're somewhat of an instructor yourself, you may even consider speaking to one of the parents.

Answer 10

Do you get to spar with her? If so, beat her down.

Answer 11

So the 10 year old is in a class to learn to defend herself against people so that they don't bully her... yet, there is someone, forget that the person is younger, bullying her. Obviously she is not learning what she is there for. What needs to happen is you... stay out of it. If you want to get involved, you say something to the teacher. Then teacher then needs to talk with this 10 year old about standing up for oneself. You cannot protect everyone... you have to let them protect themselves. Life isn't fair... if she doesn't learn this lesson now; to stand up for herself, she is going to be walked over her entire life. Kudos to you for being a passionate and caring person; caring enough for another individual. There should be more people like you in this world. However, you instructor needs to address this!

Answer 12

You are obviously senior to the little bully. Take her to the side and tell her that you know what is going on and you're going to turn the tables on her. You can bully her without touching her. If you have to, do randori with her and throw her around. Show her what it feels like.

I put a senior with an alleged bully just once and it straightened him right out. I told him I was going to keep on doing it. He stopped.  

Answer 13

The easiest solution is to separate them when they line up!

How about standing right behind the 8 year old and returning the favor every time she does it?

If you are a "sorta teacher" how about talking to the teacher about temporary suspension, running laps or push-ups?

Answer 14

I agree with L A. If you want to help, just be a person the 10 year old can talk to while they work through the problem on their own. That will do a lot more to build her confidence than embarrassing her by acknowledging the bully's affect on her in front of the class.