How to stop cheating on my husband?

Question

I am cheating on my husband for more than 10 years and i cant stop.I am attracting men from all age groups most of them very handsome and all of them want to be with me.So sometime i can't resist the temptation and have an affair. Then i got fed up and dump him and start with another one.Then it is the same with the next one.And all of them adore me.

Answer 1

Buy a chasity belt.  They were originally made in the 17th and 18th century.  What century are we in now?!!!  Face it, you have a problem.  It is called Unfaithfulness.  If you have not stopped cheating in 10 years, you're not gonna.  When you look at your husband after each in encounter, their should something you feel, it is called guilt.  You do not have it.  Therefore, for you...you feel you have no consequences.  I feel sorry for your husband.  You are turned on, by you!  You have been acting like a single woman all the 10 years. You are not going to stop cheating now.  Get help for or get out of this marriage.

Answer 2

Umm...ignor the twats?  

Answer 3

Tell your husband, he'll either keep you on so tight a leash that you'll never have the opportunity to cheat again or he'll end it and then you won't be cheating anyway will you?

Answer 4

you do not want to so you won't I dfeel sorry for your husband he deserves better

Answer 5

yh file for divorce as its not fair on your husband

Answer 6

10! years! and he still hasnt noticed d**n u must be good in bed lol

ummm.. when ever you see a hot guy just think of tony blair on a cold day :D lol then the feelings should go away

but on the other hand what he dosent know wont hurt him ;)

hope you do what you think is for the best

xx

Answer 7

See my friend, all men like to enjoy such woman sometimes. Even though they adore u for their sexual pleasure, in their mind they think about u just as a prosti. Honestly! None of them will love u as ur husband do.  

Answer 8

why don't you just get a divorce because your lifestyle suggests someone who is single

Answer 9

PLEASE tell me this is a joke!? For 10 years?  Man i feel sorry for you husband....how bout you just divorce and stop wastin the poor man's time on you!? You are so NOT worth it, and he deserves SO MUCH better.....

You should just stay single and s***w all those groups of guys that adore you so much.....cause you don't know how to be in a relationship....how old are you? Jeezus grow the f*ck up.

Answer 10

What if you found out he was doing exactly the same thing to you?

How would you feel?

Why are you still married? You are very selfish aren't you?

And that is not love.......

Answer 11

If you cheat your husband, it means you have a bore s*x life with him. The solution: be more bold and risquι with your husband in your s*x life. Try new s*x stands, try and find new sexual experiences, not the common staff, have d****s, enjoy your s*x. If you don't have problem to be bisexual, call at the s*x games with your husband some girl friend of yours. If you have a trio (3 person s*x game with two women), your husband will love it (well, most mens like something like this). If you do these, you will have not to cheat him because you and your husband will have a very nice s*x life. Enjoy s*x but not cheat.  It's not fair.  

Answer 12

They all adore you????

Try again - they all find you AVAILABLE.

Answer 13

You seem to be very cheap with out self control and no respect for other human beans. They would have rocked you in the old days.

Answer 14

how many times have you asked this same question ???

Answer 15

you need to go to a s*x therapist and see if you have s*x addiction,this is very possible,how old are you.once you been with all these men and feel adored you  need that feeling of being beautiful and s**y to everyone and your husband doesn,t show you this.this is no ones fault,i,m sure it,s s*x addiction and you can be helped,but if you refuse help than it is your fault.do you see what i mean.so get help if you want your marriage to last.does your husband work alot or not notice you to be blind for 10 years,how long have you been married.where do you meet these  men.and men who just have s*x with you and no relationship will tell you anything to have s*x.

Answer 16

divorce him so he can get over you and find someone more suitable for him. you are not a s**t mind you. you just have a bloated ego.

Answer 17

Consider therapy. Go visit a shrink with your husband. Try and figure out what's missing in your marriage that you go looking for outside. I'm not too sure if your husband will still be around when he finds out that you've been cheating on him for 10 years, but now that you've admitted that you have a problem, let's hope you guys can work it out together

And the next time you feel the urge to get into an affair, think about your children (if you have any) or about your husband doing the same thing to you. How would that feel  

Answer 18

Good for you, just don't get sad when you loose your looks and no one will want you not even your husband !!

Answer 19

Hi,

Well to be honest I think you need to divorce your husband. I don't see why you think it ok to put him through this!

You thinking about yourself in all of this - it how you feel and nothing about how your husband must be feeling .  

There is something that is not fulfilling you in your marriage if you have been having endless affairs for over 10 years.

Some couples have the one affair and can survive it because they realise what a mistake it is and make the effort with one another and get things back on track.

You say you are having endless affair after affair and it tempation to you to attract the men.



I think best thing to do is to end your relationship with husband and try and learn to be alone.

You need to sort your head out and find out what it is you really want. Having endless affairs is not the answer.

My guess is that you are unhappy within yourself and these guys make you feel good about yourself so you allow yourself to become involved. Only in time, you realise that they don't make you happy either and so go from one to next to find that love and happiness.

Also these guys don't adore you - they just can't believe their luck in attracting a married older woman and have s*x on tap so they will give you the sweet nothings in your ear, for return of s*x.

You make yourself so available and easy - any guy gonna say he adores you if he gonna be served s*x on the plate isn't he?! Talk sense girl!

If you truly wanted to stop the affairs and be with your husband you wouldn't be asking for advice on how to stop, you would just be doing everything in power to stop the affairs and prove to husband it him you want.

Maybe some counselling would be good start for you - to realise why you allowed it to get to this.

Lx

Answer 20

Excuse me?  How do you stop cheating?  You simply stop.  You don't do it anymore.  If that is hard for you, that is an indication that you have mental problems you need to address, preferably under professional guidance.  If you still can't stop, you tell your husband, let him divorce you, and let him have everything.  He deserves it after how little you've valued his commitment to you.

Answer 21

You're not going to like this answer, but it will help you to seek help and NOT turn back.  Promise.  Here goes:

Go to a safe place where you can both talk uninterrupted.  Then, tell him you've had an addiction problem for 10 years now.  Tell him your addiction is a combination of s*x, attention getting and drama.  Tell him it's an adrenaline rush that you can't seem to stop.  Tell him you love him, that you need and want help, and beg him to help you to help yourself.  

Before you have this talk (and it will be a doozie), research some treatment/psychiatric options and tell him you would like his input on how to go about healing a) your life and b) your marriage.  

If he walks away, and he may, let him.  If he gets mad, don't fight with him - remember you're in the wrong.  He may or may not come around.  After you've gotten some much needed psychiatric help (and nothing is wrong with admitting a problem and needing help), then you may have the opportunity to work on the problems in your marriage.  I would venture to guess that,

1) your husband is aware of your cheating and has serious issues that allows him to stay stuck in an untrustworthy, broken marriage.

2) you want him to find out so you can work on you all's problem.

3) your cheating is causing you to have trust issues as well.  I mean you have to wonder if every one is cheating if you do it.

4) that your insecurities by needing the s*x and adoration of other men will leave you vulnerable and depressed once you stop this damaging behavior.

Most of all, you are in a good place to change your life.  I believe you can do it if you set your mind to it and with lots of effort on your part.  Keep the focus on you.  Take time to get right with your life and your marriage - in that order.  You'll get old soon enough, and no one (that you'd want anyway) will give you a second look, much less want to sleep with you.  You will be alone, and with the same problem.  So get help now while you're still young and while you still have a chance.