How to stop my 7 year old child from?

Question

My child lies to me, acts spoiled, is selfish, and lazy. I've had enough. He's the oldest of 2 with another on the way. He's influences are wearing off on the 2 year old. I've done all I know to do to stop his bratty ways. He's driving me crazy. I believe firmly in disipline and rewards yet all my atempts have failed and I feel like giving up. I babysit the girl next door and when she's around he thinks all house rules don't apply to him any more. In one week alone he broke a list of items around the house from being careless and "showing off". Someone please help!!! Anyone have any ideas on maybe a different approach on the issues? I'm willing to try anything at this point. Thanks

Answer 1

He needs more discipline.  A hand or belt would work good.

Answer 2

Watch a couple episodes of Supernanny and maybe use her strategies.

I have an 8 year old girl.  Since birth I tried to set a structured home.  Both dad and I let her know who's boss.  She has never gotten out of line, thrown tantrums (other than when she  was 2) or talked back.  She knows we dont play around.

Give him the time out, when speaking to him go donw to his eye level, dont hug or kiss after scolding (shows weakness), make sure same rules apply to all kids that come to the house, list your rules, just like in school, YOU NEED to assert your authority, ignore the behavior of tantrums and cryings.

If he has them, take away TV in room, electronic games.  He must earn them back.  I hope you have alot of patience.

Answer 3

Get rid of him not, ground him take some stuff out of his room and stuff like that.

Answer 4

how about a swat on the butt?

Answer 5

He sounds ROTTEN to me! He is way too old for acting this way. Tear his f***y up!If he is breaking things now, what are you going to do when he is a teenager??? I have 3 boys, and it only took a couple of "come to Jeasus" meetings  before they knew I meant business. You need to not go crazy though. A spanking is not a way for you to take out your anger on your child, it is a way for them to learn that there are consequences for his bad behavior. Sitting in the corner, sending him to his room, these are all for little things. Lieing to you and breaking things around your house should not be tollerated in the slightest. Set theroles and explain what is going to happen when he breaks the rules. My boys are 11,12 and 14 and their friends parents always want to trade kids with me. I am a high school teacher and I know that sometimes these kids need an old fashion spanking! Anyone who says that is wrong either does not have kids or they have kids that are in a coma or are rotten kids that teachers dred in their clasrooms and parents of thier friends don't want back over to visit. Always follow through wtih what you say! Keep your cool and don't yell. Quieter talking gets better results! When he does something that is totally defiant,...Pop his tail!

Answer 6

See what he is being exposed to that may be influencing his behavior. Don't tolerate bad behavior and whoever sits with him should be instructed to do the same. Find a punishment that is effective for your child.  If you try spanking and it doesn't seem to work then stop doing it and try something else until you see results.

P.S. Don't forget to give him hugs and kisses and tell him you love him.  He may need the reassurance.

Answer 7

CALL SUPERNANNY!

Answer 8

spank him... worked for me and my three brothers... we grew up to be respectful and to keep our mouth shut if we didn't have anything good to say...  showed us mom and dad were in charge and definetly made us not want to do it again!  I've also heard the time out thing can work but it takes a while to get it mastered and there will be a lot of fighting on his part.  as long as you stay firm do not talk to him after you tell him to go sit in the chair... and force him back into it until he learns to sit there on his own.  good luck!  With my step-son I just tell him there will be no tv or pool time unless he behaves and it works.

Answer 9

There are so many reason children act up and at this age it can be unbearable. One question is his father invovled in his life and disipline? It's children exspecially boys need both parents involved in laying the law down. Children usually could give a d**n what there mother say's after years of listening to mommy yell and nag. Daddy needs to get into the action, you would be surprised how quickly kids straighten up there act when dad puts his foot down. If dad is involved, then like another answer take away all of his privledges inculding TV, toys everything until he gets the picture. I don't believe in beating your kid but by all means they need a good slap on the butt once in a while. I was raised in a home where a spanking was our form of disipline, as a result I don't spank my kids, but when they have gone to far they get a smack on the butt and sent to there room. Since I don't result to spanking often when I do they know they have crossed the line and mommy means buisness. Seem's like now a doys children are in control of there parents, hitting them, calling the police if they get a spank, talking back. its insane we need to gain control of our house holds and let them know who is the boss. if we don't fix this now, its only going to affect who they are as an adult.

Answer 10

Here is some information you might find helpful.  

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Answer 11

Start by taking away toys. If he is that spoiled he probably has a lot of junk. He needs to learn to appreciate the things he has.

You need to be firm in your discipline. Make punishments stick DON'T WAVER ON THIS., He needs to know for sure that his actions will have consequences.

Take him off sugar, maybe he has too much energy.

Make sure he spends most of his time outside. I meen its summer right? No need for him to be in the house bothering you when he should be outside playing and doing other things.

Lastly he might be feeling displaced with the new baby on the way. He might just be acting up because of that.

Don't let him get to you if you can at all avoid it he gets a rush making you mad, its a sure fire attention getting remember that. Bad attention is better then none at all to a child.

Good luck

Answer 12

children can get a little out of control sometimes, but you have to stop them before they get like that all the time. and a seven year old should know by now how to behave themselves.

first if he is being bratty or talks back to you, give him five minutes in the bathroom, i know that sounds weird, but if you send them to their bedroom they just end up sleeping or playing with toys. everytime he repeats bad stuff add five more minutes to his grounded time. he will get bored and eventually know that he doesnt want to spend an hour doing nothing. dont hesitate to punish him even if he has guests over. he will know not to disrespect you if he wants you to respect him.

also start taking stuff away from him. it depends on how bad his action is though. the worse thing he does, the more fun thing you take away from him. during all this discipline he might get mad at you and start yelling, but stay firm. and later when things cool down tell him you love him but he just needs to start acting better.

im not a bad kid at all but whenever i acted up, my parents set me straight. and i still love them. :) i dont think spanking will work very well since they are just bound to yell and fight back more.

hope my advice helps.:)

good luck and remember children always love the ones who give them a nice home

Answer 13

easy one, put him over your knee

for an attitude adjustment.

Answer 14

one of the reasons your child may be acting spoiled could be because you are spoiling it. you may love to spoil it, but that causes it to be ungrateful. try giving them more responsibility and not giving it unnecessary things. Also try separating more time to spend together as a family.

        In disciplining a child, the best way is to talk with a firm voice and maybe timeout. giving the child a timeout with guest around can actually be very productive. the child may feel embarrassed and will not do what they've done wrong again. if a child does not follow along with time out procedure, try taking something away from them that is unnecessary and extending the timeout time.

                              Good Luck!

Answer 15

First lock up all the toys he have. Including games and even lock the tv channels if u have cables. Only let him watch tv on saturdays. Only 1 hour of gaming is allow on sunday. Dont give him any supper after dinner. If u give him allowance(hopefully not at this age) stop giving him it or limit the amount of money given. If he tries to break things just sorta liek take the toys u have locked up and break one in his face. Dont give him any sweet besides on sunday. When hes asking for food sumwhere between the day just ignore eventually he have to make sandwiches himself or sumthing. Also make him go out more often like excerise. Dont bring him on trips like theme parks....etc.

If you really have to just tie him up by force and lock him up in a dark room with only a nightlight. Also if he really doesnt change his act just give him a big whoop* on his little butt.

Answer 16

The only way children become spoiled is if they are spoiled by their parents.  Where was the discipline when he was two?  What sort of discipline do you use for your 2 year old?   In the very beginning you have to set rules for children, and follow through on those rules.  Time outs work very well if they are started young.  So does behavior and reward and accentuating positive behavior over negative behavior.  Your son is obviously looking to gain attention and to children even negative attention is good.  I suggest you set down a list of rules that have to be followed, when he follows all the rules you reward him.  When he does something "good" praise him, when he does something "bad" just let hiim know you are disappointed and drop it.  FYI he can't influence the two year old unless YOU allow him to.  Again all children need rules and discipline, a two year old needs it so does a seven year old.

Answer 17

time to get harsh, make him stay in his room

Answer 18

Clear out his bedroom except for his bed and clothing. If the other kids get a treat, he doesn't. If the other kids go out to play he needs to sit inside.

Sounds like he's doing a lot of this because he's getting attention from it. Be it from the neighbor girl or family members. If he's not doing anything harmful then just ignore him when he starts acting out. Once he sees he's not getting the desired attention it probably won't be fun any more for him.