How to stop my mom and wife from fighting?

Question

my mom and my wife keep fighting. they keep fighting and neither me or my dad know why. they just recently started this. my mother and my wife never fought before but they are all of a sudden fighting. now every time my mom and wife are together there is an explosive argument between them. why could they be fighting? how can i stop them from fighting?

Answer 1

your mom might know something about your wife that you don't know like she cheated on you or did something really bad or something

Answer 2

well.these things do happen in a family!

The best way to finish it....seen with my eyes....just threat them that you will leave them both if they don't stop fighting.You are sick of it!

If they love you they will stop it.If not,then try to interfere yourself.If they start arguing,you try to keep them shut.

Your father can do a lot with this.

Nothing happens,then separation is best solution!

Answer 3

What are the biggest issues they always argue about? Do you guys all live together? If not, then your wife should probably not see your mother that often. If so, then perhaps you guys can start looking for a place to move.

Answer 4

As a daughter-in-law, I can say that as soon as my husband and I got married, there was an automatic tension between his mother and me. I think alot of it had to do with my replacing her as the dominant female in his life. Then we had a baby. UGH!! We argue about everything from how to feed him to how to school him (he's only 2!)

Most likely what happened was your mom or your wife said something the other didn't agree with and they've been stewing on it ever since. Now, while your mother and wife need to curb their animosity out of respect for the people around them (to put it bluntly, they need to grow up,) dealing with your mother is YOUR job. If your mother has been disrespectful or mean to your wife, then you need to talk to her. You should not abandon your wife to deal with your mother on her own. If you'd like, get them both in a room together and demand a resolution. Then, they'll unite in being mad at you, and stop hating each other.... lol

My husband is really in the same situation that you're in. It must be so hard for you guys. Just know that your mother and your wife both love you and, essentially, are fighting over you. :)

Answer 5

Do you all live together? If so, thats a problem all in itself. If not, then I think its up to you to put your foot down and stop this. I couldn't possibly know why they are fighting, but thats something you'll have to find out in order to stop it. I suggest speaking to your mother and wife separately, and try to resolve it a.s.a.p.  

Answer 6

When mothers fight with wives it's usually over the perceptions they both have over how to maintain houses, how to cook food for you, what's the right way to bring up the kids, etc.  Talk to your mom about keeping her nose out of it, because you married this girl for better or worse, and her ways may not be your mom's ways, but you're the one who decided to live with her, and she's young yet.  She may not see your mom's ways or be appreciative of her suggestions, and see your mom as making trouble even if she is only trying to be helpful.  You can tell your wife to try and be a bit tolerant of your mom if she seems a bit overbearing at times when only trying to help.

Answer 7

Find out what's the root of this problem. They just aren't fighting for no reason. Then figure an way to bring your family together.

Answer 8

Sounds like you need to have a one on one with both of them to start to get to the bottom of this.

If you have a good relationship with your mum, it could be that she is threatened by your wife being the main woman in your life, which your wife should be.

Thing is, you are the common denominator between the two, but they probably won't admit it.

Talk to them assuming nothing. After talking to both alone. Give it some thought and then just tell them they have to love each other :)

Answer 9

your mother probably said something offensive to her or vice versus, Like my mother and my cousin haven't spoken to each other because my mother criticised my cousin on she was not bringing up her children right, ever since then they never talk or get together anymore

Answer 10

Tell your mom to shut up and respect your wife. Ask nicely of your wife to be nice.

Answer 11

Ask them what's going on, but don't comment. Just tell them that they're both important for you, you,re sure that both of them don't mean anything bad, and you hope they can work things out.