How to talk to a 14 year old about s*x/birth control?

Question

Ok my dad's best friend's daughter is 14. I'm 21. I graduated w/ her older sister, which they do not get along. Her mom is very strict and she's becoming a 'wild child'. They want me to talk to her about getting on birth control. No one is really sure if she's actually having s*x but I have a feeling she is.

I know how difficult it would be for her to talk to her mom, or dad, about it. I dont mind doing it, cuz I dont want to see another 14 y/o pregnant but I'm just not sure how to go about it. I know of other things, aka smoking, that she does so I know she feels comfortable enough to tell me things. I just want her to feel as comfortable as possible to talk to me about it. Any suggestions?

Answer 1

just tell her if she has any questions about s*x that she can just come to u. she probably has questions but isnt comfortable talking to anyone about them. i did before my dad told me i could talk to him about s*x. me and him r closer now becuz of it, too. it would benefit her if u open up to here and see if she has any questions about s*x and if not, just tell her u will be there whenever she needs someone to talk to.  good luck

Answer 2

Talk to her. Just do it. Nobody ever sat down with me to say 'Look Cassie, here are the facts..here's how to be safe..' no, my family just assumed I wouldn't have s*x...but oops, here I am, 13, expecting a baby. so just talk to her b4 its too late. don't let another life be ruined

Answer 3

Good for you for being the responsible adult.

Since you aren't related just talk to her as a mature, experienced adult. Don't make it awkward or lecture her, just sit her down and have a casual conversation. When it's just you two in the room be like

"Hey ____ do you have a boyfriend right now? I don't want to make anything weird between us but since I know you aren't really close with your family I just wanted to let you know that I'm here to talk and I'm cool with anything you want to tell me. I think you have a lot of potential and I don't want to see another teen's life screwed up because they're pregnant. So just make sure that if you're having s*x that your protected because at 14 the last thing you want is a kid, trust me. If you need birth control I could help you out so please don't hesitate to come talk to me."  

Answer 4

Just talk about it as casually as possible. If you can say v****a/p***s without breaking the tone of your sentence then maybe she will be more willing to discuss it with you. Just make it seem like it's no big deal to be talking to her about it. Also remember that she probably already knows alot about it already. They do s*x ed classes in school. Tell her some stories from your past. It really helps to break the ice. Good luck!

Answer 5

First of all be well educated on sign effects of unprotected s*x and even protected, don't make her know you want to talk to her bout how she is living. Start up conversation on s*x by telling her a story you remember about your close friend very bad stories not boring infomation, use a little girl around her age... the girl was wild and cuz pain to her family ect... she transmitted std's ect... die with a baby she was carryin, teach her things she never knew. Keep close relationship with her if changes dont occur by telling her about u having a boyfriend and s*x she will brag her stuff soon...

  Good  Luck!!!

Answer 6

sit her down in the room at talk to her about what while happen in the future when she has s*x and what will happen if she gets pregnant tell think about ur family and what will happen at skool when u come in and u have a huge baby bump!! tell her that.....oh and if she keeps doin it tell her to wear a condom!

Answer 7

This is what I think you should do, Take her out, go get some dinner and have some fun. Get her relaxed. Then go for a drive and talk about it. I think driving and talk(this works best at night) is the best way to commicate for stress stuff like this. Going on a night drive is relaxing.

Dont Ever force her to say anything. You should tell her about how being pregnant is bad(for her age). You should also talk how guy wil ltry and use her. Its sad but true :/

just be honest with her and dont act all tense.

Ask her once if she had s*x and if she used protection, if she says no or doesnt want to answer, do not bring it up again, you will just lose her.