How to talk to my husband I said I want a divorce he says he does not want one what to do?

Question

My husband and I have been having problems we been together 3 years. Well I got sick of his attitude and never hardly showing affection at all towards me. I finally told him I felt like I'm in a loveless marriage I love him but that's how he was coming across towards me in my opinion. Well I told him after thinking for a while on it, that maybe a divorce would be best. I just felt like he could care less about my needs and feelings. I wanted to feel like I was important and loved. Well He cried and told me he loves me and doesn't want a divorce. Between the both of us we bring in decent money but I am paying for EVERYTHING! and well everybody I am tired. I came up short on bills for the month I had to buy our daughter a few things. When you have a baby you don't have a choice when they need something they need it. He isn't helping me enough. I take care of her all the time and work and I'm wearing short big time. I just found out he paid his 100 cell phone bill and a few other bills and he hasn't even offered me a dime. I don't even have much to go to the grocery store and he just got paid. He is gone right now he is the military and will be returning in a few months. I went to make dinner tonight and I don't have c**p in there I'm tired of living like this. It's been almost a month sense I been to the grocery. I have to work with him not helping me more financially I would be worse off than I am already if I didn't. It's the cost of gas takes a lot of my money and how every is so high right now. I can't cut back anymore than I already have that's not possible. My husband is trying to be so sweet and loving towards me but he isn't getting the point. I need help with money he was going to give me 150 bucks this past pay day I have yet to see it. He is in debt out his rear these are his bills not mine but it's not fare for me and the kids to struggle as bad as we are while he is paying his bills and has a few extra bucks on his pay days. I was to send him an email and really get my point out to him. I need advice on how to do this? I don't want to be mean so can anyone tell me what I should write and tell him so he gets the point I need help? Thanks

Answer 1

Seems money is your big problem, go to the State Welfare office, you can get food stamps.  If you shop on base at the PX, can't you get stuff real cheap?  Write a letter to your Senator and request help, it doesn't sound right that a military wife and family should have to suffer like that.

Answer 2

Just get an attorney and get the ball rolling. You deserve a real man.  

Answer 3

Tell him that he had better start sending help now, or he will be paying child support very shortly.  Sometimes you just have to be blunt with a man.  It would cost him more than $150 if he paid child support, and the military will make sure that you get it.  Tell him that you have had it.  If he can not help to provide for you, the children, and the household, you might as well live alone with the kids.  

Answer 4

It Sounds Like Your Really Struggling And Getting Really Upset, You Have To Tell Him Yourself How You Feel From Your Heart, Unfortunately No-one Can Do That For You As It Wouldn't Be Your Own Feelings, It Would Be Other People's. Also An Email Isn't The Most Emotional Way To Tell Someone Something, Have You Tried Phoning Him? That Way He Can Truely Hear You Speaking From Your Heart Rather Than Just Words On A Screen, Don't Hold Back, Tell Him Exactly How Your Feeling And Why,

I Hope This Has Helped, I Wish You All The Best =]