How to talk to your parents?

Question

I feel really bad because me and my parents r eally don't talk or communicate much. It's like I want to tell them things but I'm always afraid they'll over react and yell at me. I feel like I can't come to them about anything. So most of the time it feels like I'm going through things alone, or I wind up hiding things from them, which hurts their trust in me, which really hurts. So how do I learn how to talk to my parents more?

Answer 1

you know..when someone tells you to just go talk to your friends, your parents should be your friends. You have to communicate with them. Just by going to them and explaining what you just wrote would be a way to break the ice.

I see girls on here asking all kinds of sexual questions and not just that - period questions.

Thats just crazy that they can't talk to their moms about that stuff. Remember..parents have been around the block. They know the answers where a lot of times your friends know just about as much as you or less.

Answer 2

That's too bad.  Why don't you get your parents to join you in an old fashioned "board game".  It's a great way to have fun and just talk.

The biggest mistake teenagers make is to use the word "fair" or "unfair" when talking with their parents.  They seem to think life is a game.  Teenagers demand things without being willing to give in return.  As long as you get up and make it to school, that should be adequate - but you also want a phone, a video game, a TV, a car, new clothes, bling, etc., etc., but ask you to clean your room - that's so unfair.

Answer 3

my parents are the same way. i would just let it go. if they dont want to talk to u i would just talk to your friends and maybe they can help you out if u need help. its what i do.

Answer 4

Your question really puzzles me because from your writing it appears that you only feel the need to talk to your parents if something is wrong or there is a problem.  Why don't you try sharing things that will not cause controversy such as something funny or good that happened during the day? Start out by saying something like,"You should have seen this great dog that I saw on my way to school today.", then proceed to tell them something good or happy.  It sounds to me that you just need to be more open with your parents.

Answer 5

Thats sad:( I would really try to put all my effort into letting them know how I felt, ask them not to overreact about things and ask them to think of things from your perspective. I might work, thats how me and my mom talk about things with each other and we are very close.

Answer 6

start talking to them about small things that your worried about and slowly progressed to bigger ones or just tell them what your saying here about how you feel

Answer 7

if your parents have email send them an email saying your problem, but if they dont have emails just write them a letter

Answer 8

That's too bad.

My son is sixteen. He can tell us anything he wants and is usually very open to talk about anything that bothers him or is on his mind. We all talk openly and discuss things openly and we have never made him feel like he can't.

Have you ever thought that maybe it is how you feel that prevents you from talking with them and not so much that they will overreact or the fact they don't want you too?

It is up to you to let them know how you feel. They do not have a clue if you don't tell them. No different than a wife expecting her husband to know what she is thinking, they don't know if we don't tell them.

Talk to them.