How to teach my 7 years old son self-control?

Question

How to teach my 7 years old son self-control?

Answer 1

You cant. The reason is very simple. From the ages of 1 to 10 the emotive side of the brain kicks in and controls most behaviour - ever wander why the same tantrum gets applied to different situations for example

no cookies left in the cookie jar - tears, throw on the ground screaming match, kicking out, threatening to break things etc

same behaviour if told his beloved pet rabbie has run away

no ice cream left

same tantrum if his sister is in hospital

because of the same emotive responses in the brain the best you can do is reason with him and tell him to go to his room and calm down set limits. look up parenting programs on the computer

http://www.csme.catholic.org.au/texts/ws...

Calmness and rational thinking, are often the first things to go in the sometimes-heated emotional exchanges between parents and children.

its realy effective

Tom Phelan’s 1-2-3 Magic approach is distinct from other parent programmes in the following ways:

key elements of teaching a child the skills to become good emotional self manager are:

Teaching the child about emotional vocabulary and awareness;

Focussing the parent on how to be empathic so that they don’t dissociate the child away from their emotional reactions;

Helping the child to become a good problem-solver.

Emotional skills can be taught to children by their parents and carers. There is good coverage of emotional coaching in books such as The Heart of Parenting by John Gottman and How to talk so your kids will listen and how to listen so you kids will talk by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish.

It promotes less talk (therefore, hopefully less arguments), not more talk;

It does not necessarily require parents to attend a lengthy parenting programme;

The programme gives kids training in self-responsibility and it demonstrates to them that their behaviour has consequences;

It empowers parents with authority and the child with the freedom to choose.

Essentially, the 1-2-3 Magic approach is based on the principle that children need to know what behaviour they need to stop and start. It’s based on a signalling system that doesn’t make the child vulnerable to verbal overload and it promotes self responsibility in children by increasing their ability to exercise emotional control. Hitting does not work its a waste of time and teaches children to hit

hope this helps

Answer 2

discipline.!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 3

ahaha

Answer 4

do you mean like him being a bad child

if so physical discipline him

Answer 5

Ignore his outbursts. Respond to him only when he behaves appropriately. This might prove difficult at first - but it works. (I'm a teacher.)

Answer 6

maybe see a counselor who helps with this

Answer 7

By teaching him.

Answer 8

Well.the teacher would do this in school effortlessly

Answer 9

Erica Asahan wrote:

Hmmmn, how do you? If you ever find out the best way, please do contact me and let me know how you did it, K  -

Luv U!

Answer 10

my nephew is a wild cow. lol.. no really...  that's why his mom, my sister, desciplined him with very strict rules first but he doesnt seem to listen or care. now my sister tamed him through reverse psychology.. apparently it worked on him and as he got older the kid already understood rules. i suggest u try simple techniques like  you need to find his weakness and deal with him through that or maybe reverse psychology will do too.

Answer 11

he's  a dude  just like u and me ...!

therse  nothing u can really  do about it   ,,,  maybe  he's  just  a  wild 1  ;)       \\\like me  lol :)    

Just wait untill he starts  high school  !!!  :P   lmao    Good LUCK  Bro.....

Answer 12

is he hitting or excessively eating...?

give some more details.

Answer 13

You need to be the role model!  If he's completely psycho... well he's seven, but if it's at certain times then it's you.

Try the good ole "act like daddy" stuff.  And then reward good behavior.  Don't discipline ignorance.  Teach him that there is a time and a place.

Answer 14

He obviously has more control over you....since you recognise the need to control him even at this tender age of 7.

Get a grip before it gets even more out of hand.

Is he hyper due to some pre-disposition or something?

Answer 15

ground him, do it the hard way like asians do.