How to tell a friend she babies her youngest too much?

Question

i am really get mad that my friend keeps telling me my children are bad kids..i try to hang out less but its hard to say no when my kids like playing with her kids. but i cant seem to tell my friend she babies her youngest too much by always telling my kids to give her kid back toys that my children are playing with. she makes my kids take time out but she never watches her kids and then i tell her to watch her kids and then she gets mad...... whats should i do????

Answer 1

she shoudnt tell you how to raise your children. Everyones child is perfect in their eyes (most of the time lol) and she simply cant take what she dishes out. She will learn soon enough (when her child turns out to be spoiled and/or a trouble maker and your kids become successful. This is what my mother had to go through but instead of a friend it was her sister in law (my aunt) that would try to tell her things like "I cant believe you let your child do this or that...my child would never...blah blah blah" But My mother never confronted her about the bad mouthing and how to raise my cousins.... Tell me why im an honor student in college with and remain a healthy relationship with my parents, my siblings, my firends and BF....where as her children have experienced drug habbits, job losses, rotten abusive BF's, never have a steady friendship, etc...

So the moral of the story is...Dont worry about this friend of yours, you raise your children to be good people and thats all that matters... You can correct her when she trys to correct your children...(like with the toy situation) and make it clear to her on occasion that you never tell her child anything when she does this or that. Maybe she will get the hint...maybe not...regardless you dont need a person like that in your life...unless she can change. So just remain the bigger person and bite your tounge---unless she gets completely out of line. :)

Answer 2

Stop spending time with her and her children. You cannot tell her how to bring her children up, like she cant tell you

Answer 3

Time to find a new friend.  I would let her know that you won't be hanging out anymore cause apparently she feels that she can raise your kids better than you.

Answer 4

Isn't it amazing when you have a best friend and you love everthing about them that is why you get along so well . Then they have children and you find out how bad of a parent they are.  You just don't see that coming.

Answer 5

you should just tell her straight out...my kids are well behaved for their age and when other kids pick on them...i tell the kids something or i tell their parents...and vice-versa. when it comes to your kids you need to be straigth forward about everything.

Answer 6

i know exactly what you mean, as i had a similar problem a few months ago.

if you have a good friendship with your friend, then you need to sit down with her and explain the problem.

if you dont have that kind of friendship(i didnt), then what i did was distance myself from her. She was a really good friend of mine, so it was hard, ut now i only see her a few times a week instead of everyday.

Answer 7

Tell her, "you think MY kids are bad, HA, everyone that we both hang out with thinks that my kids are angels and you're the one with the spoiled brats!" I know people that were the youngest of their families, and they are SO obnoxious, no one really likes them, the only reason they have "friends" is because the annoying person won't leave them alone. Tell her that.

Answer 8

Tell her you'll watch her kids while she runs errands. That way, the kids can play...and you won't have to listen to her c**p.