How to tell a friend they need to just back off a bit?

Question

Basically He is just too much. I switched my phone off today because i was sitting down with the family for dinner. Only switched it off for around 4 - 5 hours and i received numerous texts from him asking where I was, was I ok, am i annoyed with him? am i ignoring him. I had about 30 texts along the same lines. "Ring me, call me when you get my message, I'm a little worried"

He wasn't like this before, but these last 6 months. It's to the point where I dread my mobile or house phone ringing because I know its him. And he wants to talk to me everyday for 5 hours at a time. Ringing me continuously through the day. How can I tell him without offending that I don't want to talk and text him everyday. Nor do I want to spend every spare minute I have with him.We have the same friends but sometime i want to spend time with just one or two friends, without him being around.

Answer 1

ummm....sounds like a stalker,just tell him u feel uncomfortable, its no big deal right ? i mean guys like thaT end up to be the guys who kill you becauz of lack of attention..u kno those creepers you see on 20/20 or date line. just try to ditch him. when he says hi just say hi and dont start conversation, u kno. id rather b safe than sorry , with this guy

Answer 2

two words  f..k off

Answer 3

Maybe he feels that you are leaving him after such a long friendship should have got married to him, his a nice guy actually but must be a bit jealous of you for not replying to him which he has done so often just tell him that you will call him or text when you are free to do so, same has him too.

Answer 4

You have obviously been a good friend. He must trust you a lot to talk to you so much. Can you not bring in another person to the close bond you have. This person may just need more confidence to talk to another person. Stand back and have a real honest look. You may find that the last 6 months was not that bad for you, But why have they become dependent on you. Has someone said the wrong thing in your group of friends. Good luck. Be tactful there may be more to it.

Answer 5

just be up front and tell him "i need my space" "you are being overbearing, and if you were truly my friend, you would give me the space i need"

or he is falling in love with you.

Answer 6

It's always tough telling a friend you need to spend a little time away from them because its a guaranteed way of offending them. Your best bet would be to just sit him down and tell him. Tell him that he's a great friend but you'd aprreciate if he gave you a little alone time. Make sure he realizes that you're not saying you don't want to be friends with him but that you're saying you just need a little time for yourself.