How to tell a parent their child touched another child inappropriately?

Question

So I am a daycare provider and while I was making lunch in the kitchen Boy A touched Boy B. He put his hands down his pants. I didn't actually see it happen Boy B told his parents when he got home. He didn't know it was wrong at the time.Boy A is 6 and Boy B is 7 and I am sure it was out of curiosity but I now need to explain to Boy A's dad that he did this to another child?

Answer 1

Call the parents on the phone one evening, sooner rather than later, and explain what happened in a business-like, factual  manner. You are not the boy's parent, and providing a safe enviroment for children is your job, so treat it like one.

Answer 2

Im sure it was just out of curiosity but you must tell the childs dad.  Im sure the kids didnt know it wasnt acceptable behavior.  Better to tell as soon as possible.

Answer 3

Just be direct and stick to the facts....no need to make any implications as to what the behavior means.

Try something like this: "Mr Smith, may I speak with you for a moment in private?  A parent approached me today and told me that your son put his hands down the pants of her son.  While I did not witness this event, I thought it important for you to know."

If the parent asks what he should do about this, tell him to have a discussion with this child about good and bad touching.  It is important that the child not be made to feel dirty about the incident as it may have been a simple case of curiousity.  He just needs to know that it is not appropriate.

Answer 4

Frankly and honestly.  I know the resistance you must feel, and it will only mount as you put it off longer.  Take care of this now.

Answer 5

just be like..your son put his hands down someones pants