How to tell hubby that we're pregnant again?

Question

OK, here's the deal. We have two beautiful little girls. They are 4 and 6, one entering first grade and the other going into kindergarten. My hubby does not want any more children and has made it known that he thinks we should abort if we accidentally become pregnant again. I disagree. And despite being careful I discovered yesterday that I am pregnant again. I insist on having this baby, but how do I tell my husband that we are starting all over again? And yes, he's getting a vasectomy as soon as his health insurance kicks in to be sure it doesn't happen again! Three is enough!

Answer 1

AGAIN?????

gosh

well u just tell him that he did something to u (u know)

and he got u pregnant.

Answer 2

Sounds like you tricked him into getting PG, I doubt you were very careful.  Hopefully he stays with you and doesn't harbor years of resentment.  Either way, you've ruined your marriage due to your selfishness, congratulations.  No matter what he tells you -- he is never going to trust you again.  

Answer 3

just tell him! i'm sure once the baby is born, he'll be very happy. no matter what his thoughts are now. GOOD LUCK!

Answer 4

Congratulations on your two girls and the one on the way! :) I agree, it's not like you got pregnant by yourself against his wishes, he was apart of it and needs to accept it. Maybe he was a little harsh with his words before to just to let you know he doesn't want to have another kid, but since it happened he might be more reasonable. If he truly loves you he will support your beliefs and decision, I also don't believe in abortion. I would just sit down and talk with him. If you might for a long time it might make him even madder, so don't put off telling him. Convince him this is your last child together. Say you are proud to be having his baby and that you love them. I'm making or forcing you to say this but that's what I would do. I wish you luck and bliss your child on the way. =]

Answer 5

My hubby was the same way, he didn't want anymore either(we have 3 now) but I got pregnant last year and he was upset about it and didn't really speak to me for 3 days. But he came around, he finally realized I didn't get pregnant by myself so he got over it. Although I lost the baby soon after due to miscarriage .  It's just something your husband is going to have to deal with. I would just tell him by hinting around that your not feeling right and that you feel different. And if he says about getting an abortion tell him that is out of the question, and not even an option your willing to consider. Just give him time he will come around. Good luck with your new baby and your hubby..

Answer 6

firstly I really hope everyone is reporting that guy that is putting spam on here. I have come across sooo many questions today with his spam.

Maybe you could first try and get him excited about babies again. Take out the baby albums and go through them saying "oh remember when _ was this small and she would do this?" keep bringing up funny things they did as babies and remind him of all the good things about having a baby around.

Also you mentioned you have two girls. Maybe you could start saying how nice it would be to have a little boy in the family (maybe your bubs will be a boy!) and then after a few days sit him down and say "hunny you may have noticed I have had babies on my brain latley... well theres something you should know" and then tell him you have taken a test and suprise your going to be a daddy again. If he mentions abortion keep saying "what if I had listened to you the first two times you mentioned abortion? we wouldnt have our two lovely girls!" Good luck hun and hope everything goes well. congrats!

Answer 7

my hubby is the same he does not want anymore we already have three but i want just one more to make it even just kidding about the even part anyways just sit down and tell him he just might change his mind. plus you hold your ground and let him know what you feel and there is nothing he can do about it. congrats

Answer 8

text message

Answer 9

Just tell him if he gets mad he gets mad no biggy. hehe tell him he could have a son on the way. That might help alittle guys love having atleast one son. Good Luck

Answer 10

hes not going like it so feel free to tell him the best way u can i dont believe in abortions so DONT do it even if he tells u to IT TAKES 2 TO TANGO

Answer 11

maybe you just need to tell him that whatever for of careful you were using did not work

Answer 12

just tell him. he has to accept something hes responsible for.  

Answer 13

tell him you're pregnant and you want to keep the baby, everything happens for a reason, and you dont want to abort your baby.  

Answer 14

you've just have to straight out tell him!  tell him that another child will be hard, but that he will love him/her as much as he loves his other children already!

Answer 15

Sounds like a serious problem.  He's not going to be happy, no matter how you tell him.

Answer 16

if he didn't want a baby he should have taken precautions before you got pregnant. it's too late now.  t xx

Answer 17

He's your husband just tell him.

It's not like you got pregnant alone so he has to deal with it whether he likes it or not.

Goodluck

Answer 18

How on earth could he possibly want to abort your baby??  That's so cruel!  You have to stand you're ground when you tell him...just tell him there's no way you will abort "our" baby when you tell him you're pregnant again.  What can he really do at this point?  Embrace the life you are about to bring into this world!  Best of luck to you.

Answer 19

Oh sweetie,i hope you dont mind me praying for you?You BOTH were involved in the conception so hubbys just got to accept # 3 IS coming.I know he'll accept this baby in time.just be strong,healthy and have a wonderful pregnancy,j

Answer 20

cook him foods with baby everything

baby carrot

baby spinach

baby potatos  

Answer 21

Make sure hes in a good mood when u tell him. Tell him that u wont abort the baby and that he has no right to make u.

Answer 22

I think talking about abortion without actually being pregnant might make it sound easier to him. Once he realizes that you are in fact pregnant again, he might feel differently about it.

Answer 23

hey he knew that if he had s*x with u that it might happen deep down. i would play it easy but most men know before we tell them u have had two so he some what knows the heads up are. i wouldnt wait too long. and just tell him the truth that u want to keep it. if that was me and my husband said he would want to kill a baby i would leave. i am sorry but that is not right to want to kill your own child. this baby is a blessing to u guys enjoy the little life. yes i know it cost alot of money but hey that is the cost of having s*x lol. my husband found that out the hard way. we didnt think we could get pg but wow three month after getting married and a month away from each other we though wrong. our like mistake is asleep in the other room and is having his first birthday this friday. but i am in the same boat as u some what i want three kids and husband wants only two. i told him after the sec he can get cut and we wont have to worry he says no so i said then fine third kid deal with it. he hasnt said a thing since. but we are army so he had the insureance now but by then i dont know. oh and dont tell him u are starting all over again just tell u now the family is done and the girls will have someone else to play with. so now when they fight with each other now one of them will have someone to play with. i think he will be a little upset at first then after a while he will come around. like i said he should of known better. well good luck hunny take it easy. and stay strong God Bless