How to tell my dad that am bi?

Question

today my dad asked me if am g*y coz i dont wanna join the army..well of course i lied but he is hesitant to believe me.. the truth of the matter is , am not g*y but instead i am bi....he told me " just tell me the truth so that i wont be confused , i just wanna know..im not going to force you to be straight like what others do.." but still i lied coz am afraid of him.. now i wanna tell him the truth stop all the questions and confusions, of course the baggage that eats me and just to close the story regarding my sexuality.. should i tell him ?would he really gonna accept me as he told me if in case?...should i tell him in the first place? how to?when to?.. am fearful of his reaction,that everything might change.. pls help i can give 10 points!

Answer 1

I'd consider joining the Army 2 get away from him !   EDIT: lil miss: It doesn't always work out that way !!!

Answer 2

That first guy who answered can go to h**l. I think his mom didnt love him...

Answer 3

he already asked you for the truth just tell him he will always be your dad no matter what.

Answer 4

Um, I don't wanna join the army and I'm straight. Just go out with it. Just look at him and say "Dad, I'm Bi.". He's your dad, if he loved you, he would accept you because your his son.

Answer 5

Tell him something like you aren't picky on gender.  Or that you don't like to choose favorites :P

Answer 6

Let me say personally I love the army! I have been in for 7 yrs, however you should just tell him and stop beating around the bush.  The sooner you do it the better you will feel. My brother is g*y, and he waited forever to tell my mother because he was scared and in the end she was mad because he waited so long to tell her instead of just saying mom i love you but Im g*y ( or bi in your case) Your dad may be mad at first, and seem non understanding but he will love you regardless. let me just say that my mother and bvrother are now closer than ever. That is a huge part of your life, and if you dont want to have to live 2 seperate lives to keep it a secret, just tell him. He already seems like he thinks you might be. But whatever you do, dont tell him in anger or when he is angry.

Answer 7

im straight and i dont wanna join the army either cuz i dont wanna die liek that lol but i think u shud just go tell him becuz he is asking you if u r and he will accept you becuz he is telling you that he is and plus he is ur dad he loves u so if u tell him everything will be all right so just go over to him and say dad i was lyeing but the truth of the matter is im bi and u will see how its gonan be okay and u will get hugged =D hope that helped

Answer 8

There is no way to predict what your dad will do when you tell him, but one thing is for certain; you have to tell him.  It's a part of who you are, and hiding that from him will only hurt your relationship in the end.  Just do it, get it over with, and in the end everything will turn out ok.  Good luck to ya, peace.  

Answer 9

Tell him the truth, that your bisexual and you fear that you might fall in love with a soldier boy and get you both dishonorably discharged.  

Answer 10

ewwwwwwwww ewwwwwww ewwwwwwww

ur not bi

omg !

Answer 11

To tell you the truth, your dad seem like he's willing to accept whatever your answer is. Most people are afraid to tell their parents because they fear their parents will not accept them afterwards or that their relationship with their parents will never be the same again, but that doesn't seem like it's the case in your situation. If I were you, I would just sit down with your dad and tell him flat out, "Dad, I'm a bisexual." I can't guarantee anything because I don't know your dad, but I do know that if I had a dad who told me he didn't care either way, I would come out as bi too.

Answer 12

First, there are a lot of g*y and bisexuals in the Army, brave men and women aren't always straight:) So don't make that the only reason you are not joining the Army.

You could just sit him down and tell him, be honest.  Tell him why you were afraid to tell him and let him know that just because your sexuality is differnet then he had imagined that you are still the same kid as you were yesterday and the day before.

I hope it works out for you, good luck

Answer 13

if your dad really loves you then he would mean what he said about how he's not going to force you to be straight if your not. i would just tell him, especially since he already hints that you aren't straight to just tell him that your bisexual. tell him you wanna talk to him and just come right out and say "dad i'm not g*y, i'm bisexual." if he truly loves you then he'll accept it. you have the chance now to tell him, don't let that opportunity slip away since he's already asked you. if your scared of his reaction that's okay but you might as well tell him, i mean he already told you that he wouldn't force you to be straight you just gotta take his word for it.

Answer 14

If I was you i would just tell him because sooner or later he is going to find out and that's when he will get really angry at you because you didn't tell him, but if you tell him he will understand, by the way tell him at night before you go to sleep because he should forget about it by the time it morning, hope this helped and good-luck.

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Answer 15

Don't listen to that 1st guy. he doesn't know what he's talking about.

If you don't wanna go and die for the war on terror then that's ok.

If your bi, then you should have equal rights. if your dad dosent like bis then hes not worth having for a dad.

Answer 16

Long question.  Your parents know what you are before you answer.  They are waiting for you to confirm it with your honest answer.

Answer 17

Just go out and tell him! He seems pretty cool about it and there is nothing you can say or do to make your dad stop loving you! Good luck!

Answer 18

tel him honestly.... at the most u'd b kicked of the house or slaped. u wont be killed..... tel him that its not ur fault...

Answer 19

I don't think it's really crossed his mind that you could be bi. He probably only sees in black and white. g*y or Straight. There's no way to tell how he will react. But if you are really tired of his questioning I think you should go ahead and tell him.