How to tell someone off using intelligence?

Question

I want them to be dumb struck.

I want to tell them off in a professional and classy way.

Hope someone can help!

Answer 1

become more intelligent than them

Answer 2

I don't know if "telling off" is the best way to put it. If you are sharing an opnion that you feel is fair, just, and correct- and you share your opinion with them in a mature way- it's not that you are telling them off- you are making a good argument for something you feel is right. If your argument comes out well then maybe then, do you put them in their place.

You need to know exactly why you want to share your opinion this way, and the root cause of your feelings. For example, say you've just gotten in a fender bender and returned to your office-- and now you want to "tell off" the guy who borrowed your pencil without asking- you may lay into him harder than need be- the root cause of your anger is the fender bender so you wouldn't have much of a reason to lay into him.

My point, and advice is before you go into the confrontation address the following things- be calm, write these things down, and answer them if you need to:

1. What is the point I would like to get across?

2. Why is this valid?

3. What have I done- in support of my view on this situation?

4. What have I not done to support my view on this situation?

5. What has this person done that rubbed me the wrong way?

6. What could this person have done differently? What would have been the outcome of them approaching the situation differently?

7. What do I want to gain from confronting this person? An appology? Respect? (By the way- this is not the best way to earn respect)

When you approach this person, don't take a yelling, angry stance. Be direct with what rubbed you the wrong way, why it rubbed you the wrong way, and what considerations you would appreciate next time something like this happens. Don't go into this to this with the attitude of hurting someone- or lowering their self esteem- just go in with the attitude of "i've been wronged- it really bothers me- i need to let you know- please don't do it again-" Kind of like the classic ole "I feel______, when you____, I want ____" Be mature- use proper grammar- and don't use angry body language. If you do it that way- it will be heard much better and make a bigger impact than yelling and causing a scene.

Answer 3

look to these guys for inspiration, Dennis Leary, Vin Diesel, James Bond, Lewis Black, Dave Chappelle