How to tell your mom something important..?

Question

Me and my mom aren't close at all..I never tell her anything really..the only time we talk is when one of us needs something or to fight with each other. I am currently vegetarian and want to make the switch to vegan. My mom doesn't really support me being vegetarian, but goes out to buy my vegi foods when I'm out, only because I hold a hunger strike..I just know she will be pissed when I tell her my decision. She thinks that I'm doing all this just to be "cool"..which is obviously not true, since most people at my school make fun of me for being vegetarian..

Well..I just wanted to know a way to tell my mom about my switch to vegan that would make it..less..harsh? I don't know the right words..But just anything will help.

Answer 1

if you are not old enough to have a job you shouldn't be making dietary changes period! If you want o have your mom support you go to your DOCTOR not the Internet and find out healthy way to support your growing body and make sure you can still be , lets say true to your heart.  Your brain is still developing  your body is still changing if you do not properly balance your diet you could possibly damage your body permanently. Talk to someone who when to college for nutrition they will be able to help you make wise decisions.  If your mom has the info , from a professional then she might be more will to accept your life choices.

Answer 2

Normally, I would suggest a nice vegetarian restaurant, have a good meal and when everyone is full and satisfactory, then have a nice talk.

For your case, if you are not close to her, it might be odd to sit infront of each other and tell this.

How about a Letter which you can pour everything out and she can take her time to read.  You can opt to post the letter.  Oh yeah, please be nice in the letter and do appreciate those little thing she does. If you can, send a little gift along with the letter too.

As you already know the cause why she does not like you, you don't have to feel bad, just accept as it is. I think by knowing the cause help you too, right? For us, in life there are thing we like and don't like too.

Poor thing, people at school must be naughty and playful, making fun of you.  Don't worry about that, as long as you don't care, you would not be hurt and eventually they will stop : )

Answer 3

I was in exactly the same boat as you about six months ago.

Just tell your mom, "Thanks for always supporting my lifestyle, Mom. I know it's not alway easy, but it's something that means a lot to me and it also means a lot that you help. But I've decided to make a few more changes, and I'm really going to need your continuous support." Then tell her you want to go vegan. You'll probably have to explain veganism t her, and then why you want to go vegan.

Now my mom gave me attitude (and a little c**p) for the first month, but now she's adjusted to it. It's pretty much like how it was when I was vegetarian. There's tension, but it's just dumb and petty and I can handle it. It played out nicely, better than I thought it was going to, so hopefully it will for you too. Good luck!

Answer 4

It would be good to start trying to build a relationship with your mom.  Often people are willing to talk about themselves if you just are interested and give them an opportunity.  

Try to ask your mom about what life was like when she was little or what she wanted to be when she got older... about how she felt when she learned she was pregnant...what she thought was really cute about you when you were a baby.  

Think about why you are not close with your mom.  When did that happen?  Have you ever felt close to her?  

Why are you thinking about becoming vegan?  Maybe you could write it in an essay so that she could read it later.

Are you old enough to have a job and start earning your own money to pay for your own convictions about food? Your conviction does not necessarily mean it's her conviction, too.  

How can you demonstrate gratefulness and appreciation to her for how she has tried to buy you vegetarian food?  

Try to work on building your relationship with your mom, as much as you can.  The rest can come in time... (and eat lots of raw foods, beans, fruits, nuts,  and tofu/soy).