How to tolerate my wife's tattoo interest?

Question

My wife has a big tattoo on her lower back that she got a year or two ago. Now she's been thinking about getting another one.

I don't like it, but I haven't asked her not to or really discouraged her in any way. It is her body and it's her right to do whatever she wants to it.

But the thing is, I hate how tattoos look. I appreciate that some people like them, but I never have. They look trashy to me. Her lower back looked sexier before it had a huge indescribable symbol on it which doesn't even have any particular meaning. Now she wants another one...what am I supposed to do? Just smile and lie and tell her it looks good when it doesn't?

Answer 1

yea she has a right to do what she wants to her body but you also have a right to tell her how you feel -and its not telling her or persuading her not to get one so she should understand

maybe she will take your feelings into consideration  

Answer 2

Oh dear.... I have two shoulder tatts and one on my ankle. I am fortunate in that my fiance likes them, maybe because I got two done for him and the other for my dad that died.

I call it personal graffitti and whilst I love my tatts I do think they can be over done.

Your wife has one on her lower back, thats cool as nobody can see it except you. Ask her where she wants the other one and if you really will be put off by looking at her ever again I guess you have to be blunt and just tell her you dont like them.

Each to their own but some people like them, mine are discreet and can only be seen when I wear a vest top but then I am proud to show them off.

I am getting married in June in Church so for the service I will cover up with a bolero jacket out of respect but at the reception I will let them shine out, its me and this is what I am.

If you cant love your wife for herself then do something about it and stop whinging.

Answer 3

I am with you bro.....ask her what she thinks those tatts will look like when she is old and wrinkly...lol   I thinks tatts are ugly and trashy looking on women ...sorry to those that have them...my opinion.

Answer 4

Just be honest... with a bit of tactfulness... Explain that while she likes them, you don't.

How can she know... I mean there isn't a person on earth that can read a mind... So speak up!

Answer 5

I think tattoos are soooo trashy too. But seriously the WORST thing you could do is tell her that you dont care, or that you like them. Just be honest with her, she shouldnt get offended. Just politely tell her that of course she can do what she wants with her body, but that you just dont find tatoos attractive.

Answer 6

you should tell her how you feel about it but still let her do what she wants bc it is her body  

Answer 7

Tell her (tactfully!) You are right, it is her body and she can do what she wants but I know if my husband told me that he didn't like something I was about to do to my body that was permanent I probably wouldn't do it.

Answer 8

No. Tell her.

I have a tattoo on my back that I had put there in my 20s. I thought it was so cool at the time but now I KNOW it looks trashy.

My husband never liked it but didn't say a word. The only reason I found out is that, a few years after I had mine, he told me he wanted to get one as well. I thought about how it would look on his body and about the fact that I would have to see it every day for the rest of my life and I asked him PLEASE don't get it;

"I don't want to see anything like that spoiling your body...that I love!!"

"That's exactly how I felt," he said.

And suddenly I felt bad. Because it's on my back I don't have to see it, but he does, and even though I would have been mad as h**l if he'd told me he didn't want me to have it, if he'd explained it that way I would have thought twice.

So tell her to please not spoil your favourite view in the whole world. Tell her it would be like sticking a factory in the middle of a beautiful meadow. Maybe she'll listen to you.

Answer 9

So your wife has a Tramp Stamp huh?  

There isn't really anything you can do except let her know how you feel.  Really it's her body:(

I have a few small tatoos in various places and my husband isn't a huge fan of tattoos but he doesn't mind mine;)

Answer 10

I feel the exact same way about tattoos. The beat thing to do is tell her the truth about how you feel about them. Sense she is your wife she should respect your opinion and not get another one. You should be more important to her then a tattoo. By telling her how you feel is not trying to control her or tell her what to do with her body. I know I would want my husband to tell me that he hates tattoos before it was too late. Tell her you will respect her decision either way but this is just what you think...

Answer 11

Tell how you feel, the negativity that you are generating has to be affecting your love making in some way shape or form.  It maybe her body, but you have to look at it.  If you see only trash, that will come across when you respond to her.

Answer 12

maybe help her design one that looks the least trashy to you.