How to train my 7 years old son to speak in softer tone?

Question

My 7 years old son speaks very loud because my family is a group of loud speakers. Now that he has a little brother who's 1 year old and we start to worry his high pitchy noise/voice will cause hearing damage on his little brother. We've asked him nicely to lower his voice but he constantly forgets after a few minutes. Bribes or negative punishments didn't work. Any other good strategies?

Answer 1

check his hearing ,he may be going deaf from all the loud talking that is goingon around the poor kid !

Answer 2

I wish I knew. I am constantly saying lower your voice. I have tried time out and nothing works. They just don't realise how loud they are. It doesn't bother me but my Dad growls at them all the time for it and it is so stressful going there. I will check your answers later to see if anyone comes up with ideas

Answer 3

Monkey see, monkey do.  If the whole family learns to speak softer he will follow suit.

Answer 4

Talk in very soft tones to him and every other member of the family, all the time.

Answer 5

Has he had a hearing tested?

Tell him you cannot hear him when he yells, only if he talks softly.

Answer 6

Bribed and punishments never work.  Ignore any loud requests but answer well spoken requests really fast, reward him every time he talks using an "inside voice".  I know my son can be loud as well but it is usually the worst when his ears are clogged due to a cold or allergies.  When a child can't hear themselves being loud they just don't realize it.  Of course some children are just loud just as some babies when they first learn to say a word or two will then scream as loud as they can just to hear their own voice.

Answer 7

not 2 be harsh but mayb every time he speaks in a loud voice it him down 4 a time out syaing that he needs 2 speak softer and if this works mayb u can start giving him rewards.....but b careful becuase this might mak him mute see if he thinks that he's quieter u'll give him treats so.....godluck and tell me how it works =]

Answer 8

If you begin to speak in a whisper when you notice things are getting loud, most kids will eventually bring their voice down to your level.

But as the other poster commented, do have his hearing checked as well if he seems unable to bring his volume down.

Answer 9

You don't "train" a child, a child is not a dog.  You TEACH your child by example.  TEACH your son what an "indoor voice" is and ask him to use it in the home.  Tell him he can yell and holler outside with his friends.  I don't understand WHY you would punish a child for doing what children do NATURALLY I'd sure hate to be your kid.