How to win my Cancer man back?

Question

I left him because I thought our relationship is not working out. He hasn't tried to come back so now I have a new boyfriend. He saw me with my new boyfriend and next day he started going out with my friend. Yesterday I talked with him over msn and he gave me hints that he doesn't tried to be with me again because he doesn't trust me anymore.

Yet he sends me kisses and when I am near him he always stares at me. How could I make him come back?

Answer 1

There are some major barriers.  "..MAKE him.." is probably the most worrisome.  You appear to value control over loyalty...

The most obvious barrier, of course, is that you are each seeing someone else.

So we have attraction, which hasn't wavered (or has it?  You thought your relationship with him was "not working out."  What did that look like?)

Cancer is all about loyalty, trust, and home...

Maybe you are only attracted to the hunt, to what you do not have?

That looms as a very large question, and for the answer you must look within.  Be very careful to be honest with yourself.  It looks as though you are only attracted to what you do not have.  If there is any hint of that inside, you might seriously consider being alone for a while and learning to like yourself.  Getting your self-esteem from controlling others is a very destructive pattern (to yourself and others).  If that is what is going on, you will never trust yourself or others.

Perhaps it is time for change? Maybe doing something for someone else?

Answer 2

If you want him back be forcefull about it confront him and tell him.