How u deal with insecureitiy?

Question

How u deal with insecureitiy?

Answer 1

Hello,

this is a subject close to my heart, insecurity is something that we all feel from time to time.

Feelings of insecurity are rooted I believe back in our early childhood and are often based upon how our parents behaved (as we model ourselves on our parents largely) and upon the family conditions we were brought up within. OK! so each person's growing up will be different and that even applies to children from the same family & same parents.

**Feeling insecure is often felt or experienced more strongly or more intensely during the period of being a teenager or in the early twenties. Why? because this is a time or massive physical & emotional & psychological change and so a young person experiences more insecurity as they change & become more their own person i.e. moving away from close family ties into a greater independence.

**How we feel insecure or what types of situations trigger our sense of insecurity will be different for each person. And how we each cope with our own insecurity will also vary a good deal.

**Low self esteem or confidence is a symptom of feeling insecure. But to be honest they are pretty much inter-woven with each other. insecurity & poor self esteem go hand in hand.

**Funny isn't it that feeling or being insecure isn't something we talk or discuss much in our society, it still seems a rather taboo subject in my opinion.

**From my own experience, you cannot avoid nor get rid of your insecurities. The best that can be done with feeling insecure is just to try to accept that you have these feelings and to recognize when they arise. The more you can accept that feeling insecure is actually OK the better it will be, YES! I know but again its one of life's odd paradoxes. The more you accept the insecurities the more they dissolve or melt away, i.e. insecurity is transformed into feelings of security by acceptance of the insecurity. Its very weird how this works but believe me this is true in my experience.

Answer 2

I had a real problem with this when I was younger and still now from time to time. As I got older I dwelled less on those things, just not as important anymore. I don't really care much what others think. Why waste time worrying about it. Life is short and anyway who will care 100 years from now?

Answer 3

I try to remind myself of all the positive aspects about myself - that I'm determined, hardworking, etc. If you dwell too much on your insecurities or the things people criticize you for, you just end up making a big dent in your self-esteem. Life is too short for you to feel so horrible about yourself, so just try to be optimistic.