How was your transition from adolescence into adulthood? Or respectively, from young adulthood to middle-aged?

Question

Was it smooth sailing or a rude awakening? Did you make any mistakes that still affect you today? What advice would you give to prevent anyone else from making the same mistakes you have (presumably if you've made any)?

I know it's a lot of questions, but I'm very curious to know.

Answer 1

Adolescence to young adult was rude awakening.  I had my daughter at 18- there wasn't time to experiment, bounce around and try things out.  I had to establish a reliable, consistent home life and be immediately responsible.  There was no room for error.

Transition to middle age (is 38 middle aged?) has been better.  That premature diligence has created a stability in me, a confidence in my choices and my life that my peers don't seem to have.  I am much more relaxed and content with the details of my life.  I am really enjoying this phase while most friends are struggling with lack luster careers, marriages, stresses of young children.   It's like everyone I know has a bad case of 'the grass is always greener' syndrome.

Answer 2

When I was a teen, I began to party. Smoking dope on a daily basis was cool to me, and everyone I knew.

I quit school. I thought I was so smart. No one could tell me anything. Making 85.00 a week made me think I had the world by the short and curlies. Thought I was sailing smoothly.

25. Wow. What a rude awakening! Been roofing houses for 9 years now. Making better money, but not as much as say, SOMEONE THAT STAYED IN SCHOOL, and became educated in an engineering field, or something similar. Been married to a woman with 2 kids for 5 years. Playing Daddy. She's 13 years older than me. It works for now, I guess. Building a house together (why am I doing all the work?).

35. Boy, a lot happens in 10 years, and it goes by so d**n fast!! Been roofing houses now for almost 20 years. Lost everything in the divorce 7 years ago, but am happy just to be gone from there! One girlfriend, then another wife! A daughter of my own, three years old! A son just born. It's on for real, now! No turning back this time, these kids are mine! Just gotta work harder, three more mouths to feed. Three more lives to consider, everyone is counting on ME!!

45. Oh my God! Where has the time gone to? STILL roofing houses! Has it REALLY been 30 years of doing that? Guess so! Kids in Jr. and Sr. High........ how did I get this old so quick? Wasn't I just sixteen the other day? Sure ain't twenty no more! Everything's going south! 225?!!? Man, I have ALWAYS weighed 170. All my life! Gotta go on a diet. Beter be headed for bed soon, 5:30 comes so early these days.

Am I almost 48? I used to think 30 was old at one time in my life! Not much longer, now.......... this d**n grey will spread from my beard to my hair. Wow, that is kinda depressing. I'm still fairly young. Not as old as my wife's parents, but if the years keep going by so fast, I'll be there next week!

Is there a moral to this story? It is true. I guess the base idea is don't waste time. It goes by really fast! Consider seven years. Not all that long, huh? But, if you have kids, they are 7. Then 14. Then they are gone, in all likelihood.

Be smart, get educated, seek God. Nobody is promised tomorrow. Saw a lot of friends and loved ones die in my life.

Answer 3

My transition from adolescence to adulthood was bumpy, becoming a mother at 20.  From young adulthood to middle-age was bumpy, interrupted by serious illness at 40 that necessitated an altered life.

Mistakes I made that still affect me today are having had a library card in every city I've lived in, and in different counties when that applied, to stay informed and abreast, never having had further education beyond having graduated early from high school, and not following through when entrepreneurial ideas hit.  A career up a secretarial ladder to highest-possible ranks.

Advice transitioning from adolescence to young adulthood would be nothing matters more than educating yourself, and from young-to-middle adulthood, remaining abreast and participating in the responsibilities of citizenship.

Answer 4

1) difficult x to say the least !!

2) difficult xx

3)to old age x*x

however as they are all life cycle stages they do pass!!!

i don't believe in mistakes ,i believe in solutions and  lessons learned .

what i have learned is :tolerance,patience,forgiveness,(includi... yourself) UNCONDITIONAL LOVE .and  unconditional love ,and UNCONDITIONAL love ,and ,unconditional LOVE.