How will I handle a boy with hyper autism, am on the edge of quitting. HELP!!!!?

Question

I started to work as an aide teacher to this very special kid for 5 days now. He is combined with regular student in a very prestigious international school here in China. I really have the compassion to transform him to a better person. Unfortunately based from my evaluation He ONLY recognized authority from the male group, and me being a female aide needs a lot of time to break that habit. I know slowly and through proper conditioning and reinforcement I can do it. My problem now is the class teacher as well as the majority of teachers who have no idea about such case, who expect too much from me... criticizing the way I handle the kid.. as if I could change the kid overnight, not realizing that I'm still on the stage of knowing his routine, studying the cause of his meltdown, tantrums etc. I have an experience in handling a child with passive autism and its extremely different. I just want to have an idea HOW TO STOP & CONTROL THEM WHEN THEY START TO RUN.

Answer 1

It is a very hard call.

Most with passive Autism do not like to be touched so the best thing you could do when he starts to run is stand in front of him. then he has to touch YOU.

Blocking and voice yourself NO.

Within the normal classroom I am sure the noise is bothering him. IF he is running often this could be why.

It should take 2 -3 weeks to change a habit. But you must stay strong in he mean time.

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Do keep 'ALERT'…

Look at the situation or circumstances objectively

Identify the problem if possible and address it

Try to understand any issues from your child's point of view

Often small things get blown out of proportion and sometimes it feels like the only option is to run away

The circumstances leading up to running away are different for everybody, and the reasons for it may never be fully explained or understood

and DON'T…

Put them down or do things that might make them feel worse. Running away suggests that self-esteem is already very low

Abandon or reject them. Your help, support and attention are vital if they are to begin to feel that home or the place where they live is the right place for them to be.

Don't relax your attentions just because they seem to be better. It doesn't mean that life is back to normal for them yet.

They may be at risk of running away for quite a while

Ignore what has happened

Criticise their actions - however you may be feeling about their running away, try to remember the pain and turmoil that they were, and may still be, going through.

Don't take their behaviour personally - it was not necessarily directed at you

Answer 2

It sounds like you could use some support.Is the school providing a Behavior Specialist?It sounds like you could use one here.

Try and get a tough skin where the teachers are concerned.Don't let their ignorance get to you, just keep the child in mind.He needs your help.It does take time for a new aide to make a connection,male or female.When ever a new aide came into my son's life,it was even more critical that his routine be exactly the same.Once he got comfortable,he would be a bit more flexible.

Kids on the spectrum are so different,no one can just say,do this this and this.You have to be like a detective and see what the behaviors are doing for the child.They aren't just typical kids acting like a brat.The world effects them differently, and most don't have the communication skills to explain what is going on.Have a behaviorist observe.When is it that the child acts up?Is he fine in classroom A but always loses it in classroom B? Maybe there is a fluorescent light in classroom B that hums and he can't handle it.Talk to the parents.They may be able to tell you things they know are at the root of some of it.Also,previous aides and teachers could shed light on what worked for them with this boy.Don't give up,but get some support.Good luck!

Answer 3

I hope this sounds not glib, for I can not know the challenges and frustration you must be experiencing, but have solace in knowing many pray for you.