How will adoptees be different 10 years from now?

Question

many of us on this site were adopted during a very different time with closed adoptions and the belief that adoptees are no different to raise than bio kids. WIth all the changes in attitudes, and increased awareness, open adoptions etc...Will the next generation of adoptees be different or have different issues than we do?

Answer 1

Open schmopen.  I know several adopted kids right now--none are in an 'open' adoption.  I think that's a very small percentage...

That said, I think they will be much more vocal than kids like me who grew up watching 'Bewitched' on my parents B & W TV, calling my neighbors, Mr. & Mrs Johnson, and were 'seen and not heard'.

Kids today grew up in a child-centric world in the Internet era.  There will not be much scrambling around in their parents file cabinets desparate for information but terrified to say anything like we were.  The will have command of the web and all the information within it.  And they won't be shy about it--I actually think they'll demand it.

And for those out there who believe the adult adoptees here are ANGRY, I don't think you've seen anything yet.

I can't wait to meet them all!

Answer 2

Well THIS adoptee will have a few more wrinkles and a saggier butt!  ROTFL just kidding

But seriously.  I don't think the issues will change much.  You simply can't take a child from his or her mother and family, put him or her in a completely different family and expect the "issues" to be any different.  They may differ in the degree to which the adoptees feel them, through better communication and preparedness on the adoptive parents' part, but I don't see how they could ever change.

I think open adoption might create some confusion, depending on the degree of openness; things like, why can't I just live with my n-mommy if I can see her (x-times?)  Why did she give me up if she comes to see me?  Those issues I suppose are about the only different ones, but with them still come the same issues that any adoptee would feel who has been separated from their biological relatives.

Just my .02!

Answer 3

i have an open adoption and my son so far (he is seven) he seems very interested in my life.  I really think it is based on the attitudes of the adults involved.

Answer 4

r u saing i different from other kids cos i was adopted????? mine was a opn adoption....bt i have friends who had a closed adoption and there no diff either.

Answer 5

Only they will be able to say.  I'm interested to hear what they will have to say, given modern methods of adoption like surrogacy, sperm and egg donation, rent-a-womb, embryo adoption etc.  Poor kids; I suspect they'll get dealt with the same "shut up and be grateful" bollocks we get, if they ever dare to speak up with anything but appreciation for the situation they had no power over

Time will tell