How will this marriage situation work out?

Question

A good friend of mine got married one year ago (13 months). I dont mettle with her life, but I just wanted some advice or to see what people think. She dated this guy for 4 years, the guy had committment issues, I know they loved each other, but he never married her and I know my friend eventually got sick of waiting...she was crying alot and said she didnt want to suffer anymore wasting her life and she dumped him. The next thing is that she gets married only 4 months later!! It was crazy, she started dating another guy and immediately got married. I cant believe she did it, I thought the other guy was her destiny, that he was simply scared but that eventually they would marry. The day my friend got married, she told me that deepdown she was still in love with her ex that she was so confused...the 1st 6 months of her marriage she looked miserable to me and many times told me she was not happy and talked about "you need to be sure when you get married, I wasnt". But she is still married and it is one year later. Do you think as a woman, she can be happy? Or she will always think about her ex? I just cant see how things started off so bad and she wasnt in love that she can "grow" to love him and be happy. It wouldnt work for me, but maybe it will for her. based on how this happened and how she felt after she marrid, what do you think? will she ever truly be happy...what do you think??

Answer 1

I have a friend that broke up w/ her ex that she was with for 10 years, dated someone else right away, and was married after 4 months of dating him.  The first 6 months were very difficult, she went thru the same feelings, but now it has been 2 years and she is very very happy.  I think your friend should stick it out and she will be happy.

Answer 2

I think your friend is right about being sure and if she's that unhappy then she should get out NOW! I would be telling her just that if she was my friend.

Answer 3

It is possible for her to truly be happy...but she has to want to be happy....She unfortunately married the first guy that came along after she broke up a 4 year relationship....and she still has unresolved feelings for her ex....She has to let go of those feelings...or her marriage will most likely not survive....It is a BAD IDEA to begin a relationship...and even a worst idea to marry someone...when you haven't dealt with the feelings you have for someone else...

Answer 4

STOP wasting people's time with this SAME question that you post every day for months and months and months and months and months........

Answer 5

I think the only thing for you to do is Butt Out!  It is none of your business.  Only she can decide is she is happy or not.  She will only let go of the ex when she wants to.  In the meantime, give her support, but don't keep bringing up the ex.  It will only make things worse.

Answer 6

Everyone is different. Time will tell if she is going to make it. I pray that she does.

Answer 7

no, i don't think she'll be happy because she settled.  she didn't have the man she thought she did when she was in the previous relationship - and she jumped right into it with the new guy.  she needs to learn how to be honest with herself, and patient enough to wait for the man she wants.