How will u know when the relationship is over?

Question

my bf and i have been keeping our distance relationship for two and half years.. it went so well , but lately i feel like he is avoiding and ignoring me, doesnt answer his phone, never reply back... he isnt saying anything.. he has a really busy job.. i knew it... but shoudnt he make time with me no matter how busy he is if he reallly loves me?, i feel like he is taking me for granted... i couldnt give up what we have cos we worked so hard to keep our relationship . and god knows how much i love him...

Answer 1

I concur with Buwisit and Virus. If you have to ask others if your relationship is over, then I think you know the answer but still want that small glimmer of hope that others may give.

But the only truly 100% way to know is to ask. And since he's not communicating with you, then that is a bad sign. And the fact that it's long distance, that makes it even worse. I'm not trying to be the harbinger of bad news, but having been in several LDR's before, I can tell you that the distance has a way of numbing down feelings. In other words, absence makes the heart grow fonder ,but only to a certain point. In my personal experience, once you pass that threshold, the adage "Out of sight, out of mind," is more appropo.

Take care of yourself and know that everything does happen for a reason. It may suck, but I believe that it's when we suffer the most that we can also grow the most and overcome....become better....stronger.

What doesn't kill you only makes you stronger. If you CHOOSE for it to.  

Answer 2

when it is simply "over". just give more time and space. medyo pakipot ka muna. he may still love you.  

Answer 3

When the evening shadows fall, and you're wonderin' who to call.

Call him, then.  Or call/ e-mail known friends for word of his situ.  

I will never hazard in the negative about long-distance relationships.  I always put my faith in lovers.   I always keep in mind Penelope's long wait for Ulysses/Odysseus.   That guy went through a lot go get back to her.  And she kept weaving at day and tearing it up at night, just to hold off her suitors.

Answer 4

When our relationship was going strong, I used to feel like this - everyday!

I hear singing and there's no one there.

I smell blossoms and the trees are bare.

All day long I seem to walk on air.

I wonder why, I wonder why.

I keep tossing in my bed at night.

And what's more, I've lost my appetite.

Stars that used to twinkle in the skies

Are twinkling in my eyes.

I wonder why.

COZ I WAS SO IN LOVE!!!

Then one morning, I woke up and the feeling's gone and I just couldn't get it back.  That's when it dawned on me that the relationship has reached its end.

But for you, sweetie, I hope you can still work things out.  Good luck.

Answer 5

you really need to talk to him...ask him if it's already over...and if it is then you really have to move on...sometimes it's really hard but we have no choice and i believe that there's really someone better awaiting if the relationship really didn't worked out well..i know sometimes we really need to learn for us to be a better person when the right person comes...IF that really gonna happen then in order for you to move on is to let him go and make yourself busy in school or work..as i said i know it's hard but you really need to...

Answer 6

You should ask him.  Sure, it is always interesting to get objective opinions on yahoo, but you shouldn't make important decisions based on what people whom you have never met say.

if you really love him you should just ask him.

Maybe he doesn't have a regular job where he can answer the phone whenever it rings.

Maybe he works in an ugly place and he is trying to shield you from it.

Maybe where he works he has to deal with monsters, and the only thing monsters respect is fear, and the only thing monsters fear is a bigger, badder monster.  Maybe he doesn't want you to see him like that.

But I have a question for you, when two people truly love each other but they can't seem to get it together, when do they say enough is enough???

I'll give you a clue...There is only one right answer.

Answer 7

Yeah, it's really tough when you start feeling like things are no longer the way they were with your relationship.  But the fact is, long-distance relationships are hard to maintain.  Chances are, he's just tired of the frustration of the long-distance thing and is realizing the reality  of his own world.  

I wouldn't worry too much, since a beautiful girl like you probably has men standing in line to woo her.  What a doll !!!

Good Luck

Answer 8

Just pray and everything will be fine again.

Answer 9

the following signs - total lack of interest and no communication. Forgets important events like birthdays and anniversaries.

It is a long distance relationship and you know what you got into. Instead of constantly waiting for signs of life from his end. Get busy with something else like work, a hobby or a cause. In that way, if he is indeed in a busy phase with his work, it wouldn't seem to feel like forever just waiting for him to come around.

Answer 10

it's over. the end

Answer 11

when the other is dead, face it...

when the other has a new lover...

when one of you has lost respect over the other.

Answer 12

when it has become a one way street.

Answer 13

communication is proportional to any relationship. You can't understand each other if you have different way of living. You both have different interest and priorities. one must change to the another to pursue the relationship. Love isn't just about knowing, it's also about expression. you have both responsibility to make effort in order for it to work.

Accept it, he's changed and move on. it isn't about love anymore. he's already adjusted and finds his needs to some people close around him.

Be strong. Life always has a reason. have pride in yourself, do not let anybody hurt you, protect your feeling. love is a choice

Answer 14

Wow. My boyfriend also "works really hard" even up to 12 hours and shifting but no matter what he does not ignore me in that manner. The question is how long has he ignored you? If it's just a day or two, you are simply panicing. Also, don't expect things to be just like it was before when you first met. Plans change. Careers change. He may even now be in the position to work extra hard for both your future, and so this makes him more stressed and busier. Sorry, I'm not sure if I helped enough. I just don't have enough details from your post to give you better observation.

Answer 15

it's is just another typical question.

yet, very difficult to answer.

i admire your strength for holding on for more than 2 years.

honestly, not everyone can do that.

i can tell you are strong by heart.

but then,

not because you were able to endure it for long,

means that you will last until the end.

i'm not discouraging you from keeping him,

but i suggest that you let go for the time being.

personally,

i think couples should break-up,

especially if one is about to go to a far place.

happiness and sadness are feelings.

it changes gradually.

and love, is like these feelings.

they come ang go.

it's impossible to foresee what the future will bring.

both of you are humans, capable of feeling.

and even though trust is present,

you or him (or both of you) might fall for a new face.

that's not impossible.

it's what you call human instinct.

anyway,

if you really love each other,

you will always bounce back no matter what.

still, if you wanna go for it until the end,

you're free to do so.

it's all up to you anyway.

answerers like me are just here to speak our minds,

hoping it would help the asker in a way or two.

may God Bless you on your journey to love.

Answer 16

When you find yourself compelled to ask this very question in Yahoo Answers to a  bunch of total strangers.