How would I deal with this problem? Could use some help please!?

Question

Hey there, Ive been with my GF for about 7 months now and we are both 20. During those times we walked through many but small problems arising in our relationship and try to foster a closer understanding of each other's character as we move along.

One of this that i discovered early was a hidden trait of my GF that i discovered: usually shes a very nice and sweet girl, but whenever unpleasant things arises that are not in her favor, she would feel angry and ignore me the rest of the day regardless of if it has anything to do with me or not. In addition, she would deal with the problem first at the cost of anything, even me. I feel its a small matter, but little frustrating thing that may have an impact in our future togetherness.

Ive tried to talk to her about her behavior (3 months ago) and she agreed to change with me, but the same thing happened again 2 days ago. Though we may have very very deep respect and love for each other,i feel that it may jepordise the rest of our relationship in the long run. How would I be able to correct her in this way?

Hows the best way to approach this problem? (Yes we have talked together about this before) What type of action should I take in order to correct this problem?

Answer 1

love her

Answer 2

You say that you have deep respect and love for each other but I don't see it that way from how your girlfriend is behaving. It takes two to tango. We go through ups and downs in life and that what makes it interesting. If she can't handle problems in a rationale way, it is going to be difficult.. Just imagine, say for instance, when you settle down with her, you will face pressures like kids, finances, career and much much more, are you then going to end up being her punching bag?  She is basically going to emotionally blackmail you. It is going to be very draining. She needs to correct her ways and if she is not gg to change and this kind of behaviour repeats, do you honestly think she will change. I think not. Think about it. Good luck