How would I word in the invitation what to bring the bride to be?

Question

I am throwing my best friends bridal shower, I want this to be about her, I do not want to include her registered at cards (for the wedding). I am wanting her to receive gifts for "her". What is the correct way to word this without "bossing" someone around. Please help need to get invites out! thank you

Answer 1

Have you talked to the bride about this????

There is a reason why a couple registers at places--because they want to give their guests direction as to what to give them as a gift and/or they need these items.

I understand you wanting people to give gifts specifically for her, but you also have to understand that the whole point of the bridal shower is to provide the couple--both him AND her--with things to start off their life with and furnish their home.  Despite that fact, many people will still give presents specifically for the bride too though.  Your best bet is to make it a theme shower--spa shower, bath and body shower, etc....

Answer 2

Just put..  "Sue is registered at *** and ***."

simple.. but everyone gets the point.

Answer 3

Typically bridal showers are the places where many couples receive gifts that are on their registry.  More commonly bachlorette parties are the place the bride receives gifts for her?  I am not sure why she would be getting gifts for "her" though.  Do you not get a long with the groom?  Is she in need of money or financial support?

Answer 4

Is that what the bride wants? While it's nice you want things to be about her she might want things off of her registry more than things just for herself. Besides, there are only a certain number of things that can be just "for her." Don't worry, some people will get her lingerie, but most people want to buy things off the registry or just give gift cards...but check with the bride first. She might not like that idea...

Answer 5

Even if you don't tell people where she is registered they will figure it out from others or they can just go online to the most popular places and see if she is registered there.  However, it sounds like you do not want them to buy from the registry.  This could be tricky, since that is the typically gift.  However, a common "game" that is being played is each guest brings a gift from the letter of the alphabet.  Example: Sally is told to being something starting with the letter "A", and Julie letter "B", Nicole "C" etc etc.  This could help combat the purchases from the registry.

Answer 6

I'm guessing by doing a "for her" shower that someone else is giving her another one whereas she will receive things for "them and/or their home".  With that in mind offer your guests a theme, such as...Bath and Beauty items, Sleepwear, etc...then you can include a size card or favorite scent info, etc,.... Best of Luck!

Answer 7

How does the bride feel about this? I would much rather have the garden hose that we registered than a basket of scented lotions. At this point in a relationship being about "her" is being about the couple. She's started her life with her husband and they probably need a lot of stuff around the house. Just trying to help.

Answer 8

This is not unusual at all. Just put on the cards that this is a "personal shower" - guests will know to bring gifts for the bride, rather than housewares for the couple. I have been to several bridal showers like this - a few people brought housewares, but most brought bath products, tasteful lingerie, etc.

Answer 9

Pick a 'type' of shower it is....Kitchen items, Linens & towels, Lingerie for the bride,etc......or do as a few cousins of mine have done, include a list in the invite of Things The Bride Needs....and list a whole bunch of stuff...include the line 'If you find yourself wondering what to gift the bride, here are some suggestions of things she needs...." That way it comes across as a helpfull list that the gift giver can either use or ignore.....

...other than that, you can't tell people what to give...good luck.

Answer 10

I have been to a few Bridal Showers that were specifically for the Bride. Usually if it's more for her its called a "Bridal Shower", and if its for the couple its called a "Wedding Shower" I think that it is becomming more common as couples who live together first have already accumulated household items, or for people who are getting married for the second time, etc...

You should definitely ask the bride what she prefers, leaf above makes a valid point.

Anyway...if she is registered somewhere for her Bridal Shower (separately from their wedding registry) you can mention it to people when they call you to RSVP. Likewise if they are unclear about  the theme of the shower, they can ask you when they call to RSVP as well.  Include only one phone number where they should RSVP, it will save alot of confusion.

Mail invitations three to four weeks before the event and include the following information:

-Name of the bride-to-be.

-Date of the Shower.

-Time of the Shower, e.g. 2 PM - 5 PM. (It is best to put both the beginning and end times on the invitation so that the guests can plan their day.)

-Address where the shower is being held.

-Name and phone number of the hostess/hostesses.

-A deadline date for the RSVP. (This is usually about two weeks prior to the shower date.)

-Bridal Shower theme. (If applicable. For example: "a personal shower for the bride to be" or something to that effect, or Linen & Lingerie, or Around-The-Clock, etc...).

-Home decorating colors. (If applicable).

-It is helpful to enclose a map of the shower location.

Here are some websites:

http://weddings.about.com/od/showersandp...

http://www.invitationbox.com/bridalshowe...

http://www.recipelegacy.com/html/etiquet...

http://www.topweddingsites.com/bridal-sh...

http://janellasinvitations.com/BridalSho...

http://www.invitationconsultants.com/sam...

Hope this helps...