How would he go about adopting my child?

Question

My fiance and i are getting married and he wants to adopt my child from a previous relationship. How exactly does that work? where would we start?

Answer 1

Be aware that adopting means changing of the original birth certificate - so make sure you have a copy for your child before the adoption goes through. (in many states adoptees are not allowed to get copies of these when they reach adulthood - EVER. So keeping this for her is important)

Adoptees have more than one set of parents - in your case - your child will have two fathers.

Whether or not the other father is in this child's life - the child should have the right to  have contact - and to know who he is - either now - or sometime down the track - as half this child's gene pool comes from that father.

It's not about who loves who the most - it's just an innate need humans have.

If parents 'do' the maximum of love and care in a child's life - the child will return that love - double - in return.

Perhaps also think of leaving her father's surname as a middle name - as this is also part of her.

Again - it's not a loyalty thing - it's just part of her.

If she decided as an adult to have the name removed - fine - that's her choice.

For now - you are making choices that will affect her for years and years to come.

Just be aware of everything. For her sake.

All the best.

Answer 2

You need to contact a lawyer and go to court.  Papers have to signed and filed and fees have to be paid.

Answer 3

Get a lawyer who will tell you everything you need to know.  You will have to either get permission from the biological father or have his rights taken away first then the judge will determine if it is in the best interest of the child for the adoption to go ahead and if so they will do the adoption.  

Answer 4

You start with the father of the child. Do you know where he is and will he give up all his parental rights?

Answer 5

well the first biggie, is does your child's biological father have anything to do with him/her and does he have any custody rights? If so, he would have to completely sign over all rights to your financee. If that is not an issue then, your next step would be to get a good lawyer. After that its basically the legality of it. Your lawyer will help you through the correct legal steps.

Answer 6

Funny, this topic was discussed just recently.  Here's some interesting reading for you:

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;...

Answer 7

You need to hire a trustworthy lawyer.  If you are from the Philippines, better get in touch with Atty. Ike Rosero.  He can be trusted.