How would i build an adult and child relationship?

Question

going for job interveiws and being asked this question all the time and i cant remember the answer im a recently qualified nursery nurse thankyou

Answer 1

1. Kneel down to their level when talking to them and get eye to eye contact

2. respect them

3. Interact with them as much as possible.

4 Know the childs interests and dislikes

5.Listen to them when they talk to you

6. Consider their feelings, and let them express their thoughts

Answer 2

by getting down to their level, both in height and brain ability

Answer 3

Respect of any individual, speak kindly, use eye contact, also allow for a calm flow of language.

Answer 4

Spend time with them and listen to them too.  Use lots of reinforcement - smile, touch the child on the head, use encouraging words.....always be fair and firm with a child

Answer 5

I would say: get down to their level, talk to them and play with them.

my mother is a nursery teacher and she hates it when the other staff stand around talking to each other and to parents rather than playing with the children.

Answer 6

Maybe the main idea of the question is how far are you willing to go just to win the trust and confidence of the child if you will be working and dealing with children in the nursery .

Answer 7

Over time

*1:1 with the child at their level,

*observe them playing, make a mental note of their preferences which toys/activities they like so when they get upset/anxious you know what can help them

* speak to the parents - they are the specialist on their child

* build a trust with them, treat them with kindness, but be firm and consistant, children prefer structure - they know where they stand and what is acceptable, they do not like rules /expectations which change, it confuses them which can result in poor behaviour/poor relationships.

Answer 8

one on one time so you can learn about the child..every child is different thats what makes them so fun..good luck..

Answer 9

spend time with them.  that is all it takes

Answer 10

I imagine people that ask this question in an interview get a lot of lists in response.  You have some very good practical ways already listed here (get down on their level, etc.)  I would use those in your answer, but add a different dimension to it.

I think it's good to start with a statement about what you really believe about building relationships with children.  Just one sentence.  Then move into how those things will help do that.

"I believe to build a good relationship with children, they need to feel adults respect them and are truly interested in what they have to share with us.  I do this by:

--Getting down on their level when I talk with them.  This shows them I do not feel I am "above" them and it lets the child establish easy eye contact with me.

--Show an interest in their activities.  When a child shares an activity with me, I feel like it's their way of showing how much they appreciate me.  I also get a sense of what the child enjoys. I want to encourage that as much as possible.

--Keeping open communication with the parents.  As much as I love these kids and know about them, nobody loves them or knows about them more than their parents.  So I want to learn as much from them as possible and hope I can share what I know with them."

In the eyes of the interviewer, you've taken your list from being simply a "here are the ways you do it according to the text books I have read" to something you truly believe is something that you see as important.

Feel free to use that word for word if you actually feel it is true and can carry it out.  I would brainstorm and think of ways you feel you have developed relationships with children.  Then pick the top three and integrate your philosophy into it like I did above.  I say 3 because it is sort of a magical number when talking to someone.  2 is "not quite enough."  4 is "she thought about this too much before hand and had a planned response."  3 is "she's thought about this before and has a good way to implement it."

Matt