How would i respond to this wedding invite?

Question

the wedding invite is addressed only to me but my live-in boyfriend will be attending too.

when i respond, should i add his name to the RSVP card too? or just my name? (wouldn't they need his for a place card?)

Answer 1

Not all weddings use place cards so his name may not be necessary. Although, weddings are very formal affairs usually. If your boyfriend was not included in the invitation - you'd know because it would specify "<your name> and guest"

If the invitation doesn't say 'and guest' you can't bring a guest no matter who it is. I suggest you call your friend who is marrying him and talk it over.

have fun

Answer 2

When the invite is addressed to you only, it is rude to assume that you can bring a guest. Only you are invited - your boyfriend clearly isn't. RSVP for one and leave him at home.

Answer 3

I would just give the bride a friendly call and ask what's up. If she knows he lives with you and you've been together for a while, he should be invited. But if she doesn't even know him or that he lives with you, then that is when she has the right to not invite him.  

Answer 4

I would call first before just adding people to the RSVP card and ask if it's ok to bring him. Maybe they are strapped budget-wise and had to leave off some people, I dunno... or maybe it was just an honest mistake and an oversight, those things happen. It's hard to remember everyone and their significant others, especially if they aren't married.

Not everyone has place cards, so I would ask that too, if they DO say he can come, if they need his name...

Good luck! :)

Answer 5

If the invitation is only addressed to you that simply means only you. If they wanted you to invite a guest they would have put that.

It would be rude to call her or put her into an uncomfortable situation by asking if your boyfriend can come. It isn't like you are married. That is always a given. Boyfriends and little children are best left at home. If you don't agree with that then simply decline to go.

This is the proper etiquette. Weddings are expensive and there is only so much room and so much budgeting for food and such.

No need to get upset or anything about it. Would do no one good.

This is just a polite way of saying only you.  

Answer 6

hate to break it to you but if it doesnt say "and Guest" or your name and his name, hes not invited and it would be rude to bring him. You may even get a call from the bride telling you that there isnt space for him if you add is name.  

Answer 7

The invitation is only addressed to you because you are the only one invited.  

The decision you need to make now is to accepted the invite or refuse because your guest was not included in the the invitation.  

The really bugs me that the wedding party only puts one name, if they don't know the person boyfriend or girlfriend name then the invitation should say "guest" or number attending. How do they expect you to attend alone especially if there will be dancing?

So now are you accepting and going by yourself or staying home with your boyfriend.

Answer 8

If your live-in boyfriend was not invited, you can not take him along. Only people who are invited are allowed to respond with their names. If you do not want to go without him, then graciously respond that you will not be able to attend.  

Answer 9

Well, make sure first that he's invited. If it says your name "Plus Guest," then add his name and RSVP. If you're the only one invited, then ... well, you're the only one invited.

Remember that weddings are expensive and intricately planned affairs. Not everyone can go because they have an affiliation with a guest.

Answer 10

Nope, sorry. If his name or "and guest" isn't on the envelope, then he isn't invited. It's rude to bring a guest when you were not invited to do so. So now you need to decide whether you want to go without him or decline.

Answer 11

well like are the couple really close to you? do they know u have a bf? if not, then let them know you have a boyfriend and go from there see what they say or be like can i bring my date AKA my bf?

Answer 12

Sorry, but, even though I don't agree with only inviting you, if your name was the only one on the invitation, then you are the only one invited, not your boyfriend.  So now you have 3 choices, go without him, call the couple and ask if you can bring him or not go at all.  The choice of just adding him to the RSVP is not an option because it is considered bad taste to invite someone to wedding when he is not technically invited.

Answer 13

I think that invitations list all the names of the people who are invited.  So if your boyfriend's name isn't on the invite, he's not invited.  

Answer 14

If it's addressed only to you, do not assume that he is invited.  Does the couple know you have a boyfriend that lives with you?

I would call the bride immediately and explain the situation.  If she knows you have a live-in, it was rude of her to exclude him, but it would be far ruder for you to just write him in (essentially inviting him yourself, which you are not allowed to do, as you are not the host.)

Let her know that his name must have been inadvertently left off the invitation, and that you would like to confirm that the invitation was meant for him as well.  This will give her a chance to explain.  If she says there's no way for him to be included, then you may choose to decline the invitation if you don't wish to attend alone.  That is a better option than to simply assume that he can come.

Answer 15

If his name isn't on the invite he isn't invited.  Adding his name to the card would be REALLY bad and REALLY rude of you.

Is this someone close to you? like a close friend or something?  If they are VERY close ask if it is okay to bring him.  And I mean REALLY close, like someone you talk to about everything.(mother, sister, best friend are about the only people you could use this option with) Most likely if anyone was that close to you they would've invited him anyways so I doubt it's someone you could do this with. so your option is....either don't go or go alone.

Do NOT add his name to the rsvp card. they don't need his name for a place card because he doesn't get one since he isn't invited.

EDIT: to be brutally honest, if someone sent me an rsvp back with a name written in I would tell them that neither are invited now and go on without either of them