How would this make you feel??

Question

hi this might be in the wrong section but im always on this one and feel that you always give good answers!

i moved to canada from england in nov 07 with my boyfriend of 5 years then had a baby boy in jan 08. we moved to a small town were i made a greatly needed friend! she is a really nice girl who also has a son only months older than mine, shes a single mum and i think she does a really great job! (i find it hard and i get a lot of support from my bf). but just lately she has become really jealous of me and my bf we moved here for a better life and we have one... a big house nice car etc which mean nothing to me really. my bf has a really good job so i can stay home which i love ot do and couldnt imagine it anyother way! hes a really sweet guy would do anything for you sort... she makes up lies saying he texts her saying hi i miss you when you coming round to see us! she tries to make me look stupid infront of him and just really stupid spiteful stuff she said he went over to her house the other and she was in her pjs and he said oh your still beautiful to me! which i know he didnt were very mcuh together but its seems as if shes trying to break us up! she said to me yesterday i hate it when people have bfs and all they do is stay and home and sit on there fat asses! i said do you mean people like me and said yes! i find it quite funny because me and my bf talk about what she says he say and what he actually said! i kind of feel sorry for her she has lent me lots of things fo rmy baby and she only lives like 5 houses up from me so i dont want to argue wiht her or there to be an atmosphere i dont know what to do!

i guess what im really asking is how would you feel if this happened to you and what would you do? because i know shes lying! i have asked my bf straight out and he denys it i know he cant lie to me at all we have been together too long and he loves me and our son very much!

Answer 1

This girl is NOT a friend, she is a spiteful ***** and i understand why she is single.

She will 100% cause problems in ur relationship unless you tell her that you will just be neighbours and not friends anymore, how on earth have you put up with this so long honey, she is horrible to you.

I guarantee it she doents give a da*n about you, she is clearly just after your man, she is dangerous, i would never treat my friends so badly, she is a twisted b**** x

Answer 2

the first thing i want to say is, this woman is not your friend. she spotted your vulnerability from afar and prayed on you because she is jealous of your life.

i was having similar probems. my BF helped out his friends wife. they were having trouble, they ended up breaking up. she'd call him and say, chris is round here trashing the place im so scared etc. so he'd drive over there (20miles away) to calm things down.

AMAZINGLY by the time he got there, he was aparently gone and she had tidied the house (smell a rat?). so this happened a few times. i spoke to my BF and said what the h**l is going on. he swore on our daughter life nothing was going on, he loved me, wanted me etc. i said i didnt trust her, and told him what i believed her to be doing. he dismissed it.

i was pretty down at the time about a lot of things. i denied there was a problem, i spoke to her as she said what a good friend i was etc, i told how down i had been, she went on about how she was there for me etc. so i went to the dr believing i had an awful paranoia problem. i was prescribed fluoxetine (prozac). it took 2 weeks to kick in.

before it kicked in, i was still sooooo paranoid, so i went through his mobile. where i found texts from her detailing -

i know how you feel but i cant help how i feel about you

your everything i want

ive got it in my head that we will work out

BLA BLA BLA

i read the sent messages which said -

ive told you before im with nic

i love her, i want her

i dont feel anything for you, you need to stop this.

i was more hurt he didnt tell me she felt the way i knew she felt. but happy that i knew i could trust him.

so i confronted her, and i'll tell you honestly, i d**n near knocked her out! i restrained myself, for a few reasons - im better than that, im a mother, and by walking away with my man, the man she wanted meant i had won.

i think you and your BF should confront her, as she cant lie and say he sent the texts when he is there to say he never. tell her to stay away from you, your family and if she doesnt, then you will taking out a restraining order.

Good Luck x*x

Answer 3

i would join activities like mom groups or something to make new friends because this is not the type of friend you need she sounds like she has emotional problems

Answer 4

Be straight with her, next time she says something like that say "you know,I like you and I like being your friend, can we agree that you are going to stop making things up because it is unnecessary and I simply don't believe you. if that doesn't work you might need to be slightly more cruel, invite her over when your partner is in and both of you make it clear that you have discussed her behaviour, found it initially quite funny but now it has to stop or reluctantly, the friendship has to end. it might be a good idea to return the things you have borrowed as a sighn that things are cooling and you are taking control.