How would u cope if u were me?

Question

I was in a freak accident 6 months ago and was horribly disfigured. It's in a place that can be covered up by clothing but I'm extremely depressed about my body. To the point were it's consuming me. I developed an anxiety disorder, in which I continually think plastic surgeons can help me, but none can. The deformity is all i can think about, i can't enjoy my life anymore. I can't date, I can't show any man my body, ever.

Answer 1

wow. if it were me, i'd personally be happy to just be alive. i can't imagine what you are going through. try talking to a conciler. it might help just to have someone to listen to you.

Answer 2

Babes .. your lucky to be alive, people will understand. please dont be ashamed of your body. you could have lost your life, so enjoy it now you can. x

Answer 3

I'm really sorry to hear this. You will find someone to love you and other people have lived through the same kind of situations before there has to be a support group somewhere out there with people who are simaliar to you. google it good luck and for what I've seen in life everything happens for a reason. Maybe your a muse meant to inspire others, you won't know for a long time but eventually things will become clearer to you. Life sometimes kicks you right in the butt but you must go on, must live. good luck, E-mail me if you ever need to talk.

Answer 4

Well this is an incident that allows you to find a real true love. Cause instead of some guy trying to get lucky...you will find someone who likes you for you. And if they truly love you for you then they won't mind the dis figuration. To cope with the rest of your life...just be glad you are alive. I am sure your family likes it to that you are still alive over being dead.

Answer 5

You know what I would do I would try to get the support of the ones who love me.  Nobody really can tell you how to cope unless they were in ur shoes or position.  But being quite the party gal I am I would go out there and if you meet someone and u fall in love, if he truly loves you it won't matter but the things that matter will be your eyes or your personality or your laugh.  Just hang in there and live your life, I know it sounds cheesy but it's the best thing to do.  Good Luck

Answer 6

Hunny, I can understand where you are coming from, about being ashamed to show a man your body.  But believe me, any man who would not like you because of such a thing, is not worth your time.  And there is a man, there are men who will love you no matter what.  Get yourself some meds to deal with the anxiety now, and perhaps go to counseling to learn to love yourself again.  This seems like a turning point for you.  Which way are you going to go?

Answer 7

grab a bottle of 100 proof SOCO

Answer 8

go get some help with your anxiety a psych or something. or just an understanding friend. in the end any guy worth thier salt wont care.

Answer 9

Sorry to hear about your accident but what you have to remember is that theres a lot more people out there worst off than you. At least you can cover up with clothes & remember a lot worse could have happened in the accident so you should count yourself lucky aswell. Most important is that you probably see it worse than other people would & once you learn to accept it you will learn that if other people are bothered by it then thats their problem not yours & it's their loss. But you will probably find not a lot of people would care, looks aren't everything remember. I hope you get past this huni, good luck x

Answer 10

I am really sorry to hear about your accident. The only good thing I can say is at least it can be covered up with clothing.Try to remember it is what is on the inside that counts. When ever you do find some one to be in a relationship with they will love you no matter what is disfigured on you.  

Answer 11

Well, I would get the plastic surgery if I was you. You just need to find the right surgeon to help you. If you don't then you would just think about all day.

If you don't want to do the surgery then you have to accept yourself...It's still you early and your still effected by the accident. Acceptance takes time.

GL

Answer 12

I would feel the same way because my breast aren't as perky after breastfeeding two kids and I don't like taking off my bra off and my boyfriend understands to him it's no big deal but to me it consumes my life and I want fake b***s but they're too expensive.  I started with on line dating just talking and getting to know him first and after awhile I told him that I was very insecure about s*x, he understood and we continued to talk and finally met in person and hit it off.  And when s*x did happen those lights stayed off and still do.  I don't know if this will really help you but I can understand exactly what you're going through with the extreme depression and all.

Answer 13

I might feel the same way, but just know if someone truly loves you and cares, they'd look past the outward appearance and look who you are inside. This also includes friendship as well not just someone to love you or date you. Take care of yourself!

Answer 14

If you said what the deformity was it mighty be easier to help you.

Answer 15

i would man up and get over it because there are things in life that you simply dont have control over. when you face such things, you can punk out and get depressed or you can choose to roll with the punches and learn to gather strength from them.

you need some serious help, you sound like a basket case