How would u handle this?

Question

my sister is extreamly rude and spoiled! i have to watch her from 8 to 5 on weekdays during the summer and i can't handle her! she swears ALL the time and calls me EXTREAMLY hurtful things (in public and just at home) and shes only 5 years old! she has a MILLION toys but im the one who has to clean her room (my mom's orders cuz shes "too young"), she leaves wrappers everywhere, threatens to kill me if i don't turn the T.V. back to wat she waz watching, and a lot more horrible things! i try setting rules but my mom always says that shes the parent and not me so i can't set any "extra" rules! its unfair becuz im the one who has to put up w/ her and i can't handle her! shes going into kindergarden this year and im afraid shes going to get kicked out the first day for threats or swearing or something! shes 5 and shes given me bruises and even a black eye b4 (from throwing toys)! shes out of control! any help will be apreciated on how to control her! im only 14 and i can't take it!!

Answer 1

teach her to repsect you.

every sibling relationship has some physical fighting. put this little girl in her place. dont beat her, but show her whos boss.

spanking usually does the trick.

Answer 2

that is not fair at all.

she is 5 years old and shouldnt be talking like that or acting like that.

and she is old enough to clean up after herself.

Answer 3

i would find a job. then you can't get the kid dumped on you.

kinder will teach her some consistency and rules, where your mum hasn't bothered!

Answer 4

tell your mom you won't babysit anymore unless she starts giving her boundaries...the fact that she's not only misbehaving but telling you she's going to kill you is not appropriate and definitely not normal 5 yr old vocabulary. Next time she acts that way I would grab her and walk to the police station on the way there I would tell her that if she continues to threaten you that's where she'll end up...

Unfortunately it's your parents fault for not setting rules and proper guidelines for her. Now you have to deal with the brunt of it all...No more miss nice girl...set your rules as you see fit throughout the day...after all you are the one babysitting and she seems to think she can do whatever and say whatever...that little girl needs a serious attitude adjustment. good luck!

Answer 5

You need to have a talk with your mom.  It's not your sister's fault for being that way.  She does it because she can!  Your mom saying she's the parent and not you would have me telling her to act like it.  She's not parenting at all if your sister is the way you claim.  It's a tough situation but your mom is going to have to make the changes.  If you don't have to babysit then I wouldn't.  Let her be someone else's headache.

Answer 6

OMG! i'm sorry just hold in there and if she gets kicked out then her mom hope fully will get a awake up call! u getting payed!?!? i would hope at least something! good luck! u can e-mail me anytime!

Answer 7

A child shouldnt' be watching a child and video tape her so your mom can see how she behaves while you are watching her.  Time for mom to get a babysitter maybe then your sister will listen to someone outside the family

Answer 8

i'm a mom of two children. My oldest is 5. she cleans her toys up or I take them away. Your sister needs to learn responsibilty. If she backs talk you, just ignore her and walk away. If she askes you why you walk away, tell her you don't like to talk to people with dirty mouths. Your mom needs to realize that she is 5 and is old enough to learn responsibilty. I suggest you video record her or tape record her without her knowing then show your mom while your sister is sleeping or out playing.

Answer 9

You should have the right to give your sister consequences if you are babysitting her.  Just because the babysitter is a sister does not mean she should be treated differently than a babysitter who is not related.  No babysitter would put up with this.  Does your mother say your sister's language is alright when you tell her about the swearing?  Does your sister swear when your mother is present?  How does she react to your mother's discipline.    Your sister may behave very differently toward her teacher next year especially if she does not swear at your mother or other adults. Kindergarten is not something you need to worry about anyway as you are not responsible for raising your sister.  Every kindergarten teacher would tell your mother that your sister should know the routine of tidying up her toys, coat, shoes etc.  Who does she think is going to do this for her in kindergarten?  She will be behind the other children in things like citizenship, personal care, organizational skills, etc.  (All these things are marked in our school districts and I would not be surprised to see them marked in yours.)

Try  to limit time sitting around the house with your sister.  Take her to the library, park etc.  That way you can meet your friends and let her run off a little steam.  Does the library have any organized storytimes etc?  Ours does and the little ones go in a room for their time while the caregivers read outside in the library.  It would give you a bit of a break and if she misbehaves with an adult there that would give Mom a bit of a head up with reality.  Hopefully, your Mom would not frown on a trip to the library.  

You have a hard job for a 14 year old.  It could be that your Mom is not well enough off to pay a sitter and just can't manage any other way.  Try to get through it as best as you can.

Answer 10

i would refuse to watch her.  although your sister has some problems, your mom is the one who has the problem..  if your mom gives you c**p, i would start unplugging the tv and stop cleaning the room.  h**l if you or a friend has a video recorder or even one on your cell phone try to catch the way she acts.   if she does this in front of your mom than obviously that wont help.  if your mom still doesnt help then i would continue to set extra rules while your mom isnt around and try to get by until kindergarten comes around and see how your mom feels when her little angel gets expelled in kindergarten.

Answer 11

I support the video tape idea. It is likely that the behavior will change a little if your sister knows your mom will be seeing exactly what she does.

Your mom is the parent, but no parent can leave a child in the care of someone else without giving that person the authority to set boundaries. At the pre-school or with a paid baby-sitter, whoever is watching the child will have rules. Now, you shouldn't change what your mom says. If your mom says she can watch as much TV as she wants, then you have to let her, but check with your mom what punishments or rewards you can use.

Make sure your Mom doesn't think your complaints are just because you don't like watching your sister. Talk to your Mom as if you want to do the job, but you need to learn how to do it. If you act like you want to do it, you can work with your mom on, "what should I do if she does this?" kind of scenarios.