How would u resolve a conflict with a weak pupil who doesn't want to accept his disabilities?

Question

And blames teachers?

Answer 1

Generally, we are enveloped in a culture of blame (here in the US, at least).  As such, too many individuals -regardless of attendant issues and circumstances- are quite comfortable with pointing their finger out from themselves and toward another; in school, that tendency happens to occur most frequently from the fingers of children (students) and their parents.

My methods for resolving conflict are to first ensure that the conflict itself is mutually understood, that is, do all parties agree to what the "actual" conflict is?  I have found that too often the conflict is rooted in semantics, misunderstanding of terms and concepts, or polarized language.  As such, I always go back and identify the issues that make the conflict what it is and then meet with all parties to articulate the issues as I see them and to welcome other issues (from the parties involved) as well as to solicit reasons for why my issues may not apply.

The goal for this initial clarification of the issues is to ensure that "everyone is on the same page" (so to speak) and that this dialogue is a first step toward resolving the conflict.  In short, if the parties cannot even agree on the basics of the conflict then, generally, the conflict will not be resolved by those presently involved; it will take an objective outsider (third party) to consider the facts and make recommendations for resolution.

In addition -for this particular case- I'd want to know what is meant by "weak student" that is, is the weakness perceived from an academic, physical, social, emotional -all of the above- frame-of-reference and, regardless of the single or multiple attributes contributing to this weakness, how does that directly relate to the conflict?  I believe this is a vitally important consideration that the teacher (adult) must weigh before addressing a resolution.

Next, the "disabilities" cannot be used as an excuse by the student or a condition by the teacher if in fact the disabilities are not the root cause and overarching substance of the conflict.  That also must be strongly considered by the teacher before making any attempts at moving toward conflict resolution.

Finally, if the teacher believes there is merit in consulting with the parents (or parent) prior to taking any next steps, I believe the previous suggestions still apply ... that is, reflection and analysis of the conflict conditions before making any suggestions or even engaging the next dialogue.

I hope this is helpful ... good luck!

Answer 2

That's a tough ? For some people accepting a disability is  admitting you are weak. I don't think anyone wants to be weak.Helping them understand  their problem gives them a chance to answer.It may take the help from other people.The truth hurts but, straight out honesty. gives them a chance to be honest with themselves. Then  they may be able to find a solution to the problem.I am not a teacher but I don't think giving up is the answer.

Answer 3

yikes. that suuks terribly to be in your position.

as a parent myself, i hope u don't give up trying! good luck.