How would you be feeling if your child had been sexually abused by a 14 year old boy and was not charged?

Question

This happened to my 6 year old daughter,i heard today that because of my daughters age,and the fact she was only 5 when it happened ,and the court case would be to much for her ,our crime prosecution unit decided it was not within the publics intrest to prosecute.

I am so upset i feel my daughter had this done to her and there is no justice in the world any more?

Answer 1

I'm so sorry that you are dealing with this.  I would call your local news station and make a huge stink about it.  I would call the police department and a lawyer.  If there is any proof that the young man did this, I would sue the c**p out of his family in civil court.  There is no way I would sit back and let nothing happen.  Good luck.

Answer 2

Oh my god that is toatlly shocking i feel so sorry for u and u family!! what a b*****d id be tamping.  this country is a ******* joke

Answer 3

i feel for you. my son who is now 10 was sexually abused by our best friend (who was a woman) for a year. from age 2-3years old. he was permanently physically damaged as well as emotionally  damaged. he had hallucinations and suffered anorexia. he went to therapy for a long time. he is now happy but still withdrawn at times. she (the offender) was told to move away. paperwork was lost (her daughter was engaged to investigator's son). we fought with the police to tell us what was going on with never a straight answer. we were told not to get a lawyer. and she walked with not even 1 minute jail time. they told me because he was only 3 we could be coaching him. and a trial would be to scaring to him. he was scared emotionally anyway. i asked them "what do you need, to watch it happen?"  i just talked to my son about it and told him it wasn't his fault, that "she: loved him just in the wrong way. we looked for some good counseling. and like i said he's now doing very well. but i agree with you there is no Justice in this world.

Answer 4

I'd be furious!

There must be something you can have done (legally i mean)

The legal system will be kicking themselves when the lad does that or goes further next time!

Maj

Answer 5

I am disgusted and appauled.  Please contact your congressman!  This is horrible.  Keep plugging and agravating who ever you need too!.Until someone listens to you and takes action.  This is why they are so many d**n predators out there.  I can't believe our justice system.  If this predator is 14, I can't imagine what he will be capable of as he grows older.  Disgusted!  I am soooooo sorry you and your daughter are going through this

Answer 6

Although it seems you can not proceed with this as a criminal case, can you not pursue it as a civil case?

The justice system really seems to let people down. I am so sorry for what has happened to your family, I cant imagine how difficult it must be for all of you.

I would be furious, not only for what has happened to your daughter but also for the way you are not backed up by the justice system. I agree it would probably be traumatic for your daughter to go through a trial but the boy shouldnt get away with what he has done. What sort of justice system do we have when it gives the message that it is ok to break the law and do what you want without any kind of punishment.

I am outraged!!!!

Try to stay strong, my best wishes to your family

X

Answer 7

I am absolutely lost for words and disgusted.

This cannot be right, can you not appeal this decision?

*EDIT*

Is it any wonder people take the law into their own hands when justice isn't done, a baseball bat might do some good, it wont change whats happened but it would make me feel a bit better

Answer 8

The punishment often is worse than the crime, for all concerned, especially where kids are involved.

Exacting revenge against the boy isn't as important as seeing that he gets treatment and that your daughter doesn't suffer any ill-effects (molestation is usually more traumatic to the parents than to the child--supposedly most kids are molested at one time or another and the parents never know about it).

Answer 9

I'm speechless

that is so disgusting but trying to bring him to justice

will that take bak what happen to ur poor daughter?

Answer 10

I agree to a point, his deed should not go unpunished. But would you really want to subject her to the horrifying meanness of the trial lawyer? Because of her age, they will put her on the stand. And they are mean and much more damaging than the actual deed. They not only verbally assault your child, but they will drag anything you've ever done into the court room to discredit you as a parent. So not only do they hurt your child directly, but they hurt the child by attacking the parents. Its horrible. I had a friend who's daughter was about the same age and a guy that kept her sometimes, sexually abused her. Just before they were to go to court...the prosecutor played out a scenario of what would go on in the court room during the defenses. The whole family was going to be put on the stand. Even the victim @ 6 who was 5 when it happened. They brought up the father's dui from like 20 years ago, asked the mother how man boy friends she had had in her past. The defendent was making up all these lies. They realized enough damage had been done. There was no reason to make their child relive the incident and then subject her to more pain and ridicule. What they did do was rally the neighborhood against this guy, he finally had to move to get away from them.

Answer 11

OMG! I couldn't even imagine.  My daughter is 6 right now and I would freak out!  What did his parents do?  Try taking it to another court, if you can't appeal it notify the school, daycare, sports or anything else this 12 year old is involved in so that he can't do it to anyone else.  I am so sorry for you and your daughter, I'll pray for her.

Answer 12

I BET YOU ARE SO WOULD I BE BUT JUST REMEMBER IT WAS NOT YOUR FAULT YOUR NOT TO BLAME, AND YOU NEED TO STAY STRONG FOR YOUR DAUGHTER SHE NEEDS YOU NOW.

BUT I REALLY DO FEEL FOR YOU AND WISH YOU ALL THE BEST FOR THE FURTURE TAKE CARE XX

Answer 13

That is disgusting!

He should be prosecuted, he caused an offense!

Honestly I think this country's judges do not do their job properly, people seem to get away with plenty of crimes or get let out of prison way too early.

I would really make sure this is publicised, I agree with Vivian, get to your local news studio and to the papers and everything, make it known so something must be done. People get away with too much these days!

So sorry to hear what happened to your daughter, I hope, somehow, this will all be resolved.

XX

Answer 14

I don't know quite how to phrase this, but please don't feel that your daughters life is ruined. If you go into the years ahead feeling this then you will convey this sense of despair to her, possibly tainting her view on the world forever.

I understand your anger/disgust/hatred and disbelief at the 'justice' system, but please do all you can to hide this from your daughter. She needs love and laughter, she didn't know what this person did to her was wrong and she needs to be set free from the memory of it. You may find that counselling could help you, you may need to vent your anger.

Answer 15

Its horrific and I cant believe nothing more can be done! After all how many more potential paedophiles do we let slip through our justice system because at 14 he is to young !! Imagine what he is going to grow into and where will it stop at another innocent Maddy going missing to some sick ring of perverts!!No matter how old anyone is they deserve justice if a crime has been committed against them! Your daughter does as well and much more in the sense of counselling and so do you because I'm sure as much as others tell you you are not to blame you feel responsible!!Don't let it destroy you and don't let this drop!!