How would you deal with a neighbors kid in this situation?

Question

He's 5. He always shouts my kids names at the top of his lungs, over and over again. It's not always a good time. But my kids drop everything to see him. It irritates me - maybe they just had a bath, or were in the middle of homework or dinner...Once my kids let themselves out the front gate to see him. I didn't know they left the property and was very freaked out! But worst of all, when he and my daughter play together, my daughter acts defiantly around me. She's not like that with her other friends. When they're together, she does not listen to me, nor does he! I've sent him home a few times for - 1) jumping on our pool cover like a trampoline and 2) running to the pool area constantly when he knows he's not allowed to. He can't swim! He's so strong-willed. My daughter just seems to do what he says. They think it's fun to sneak around behind my back. His mother knows how I feel about him. She tells him to stay away, but can how long can you avoid your next neighbors?!

Answer 1

Time to sit the little boy down and sternly tell him he cannot come over any more. If he drowned on your property, YOU would be held liable no matter what. Not a good time.

Answer 2

I would sit down again with the mom and make her see all of your concerns. Regardless of what she has to say, it's your child that you are concerned with and you have to nip this behavior in the bud. That means that you no longer allow the neighbor's kid to visit, and if you have to, blare a radio or the tv so that your children do not hear him calling their names.

Then sit down with your children and explain the importance of listening to mommy (and daddy) because ya'll are the bosses and you know what's best for your kids. They may not understand that at the moment, but in the long run they will.

Answer 3

throw some threats around u obiviosly tried to get control in a settle way but thats just not gonna cut it here

Answer 4

Tell your children that they are not allowed to dash out--they MUST ask you first. If he keeps doing dangerous things (especially on your property), send him back home and talk to his parents. If they keep letting him come over and doing things that you don't want him to do, press charges on the parents for trespassing (well, allowing their kid to trespass).

Answer 5

Only let them interact when his mother is there, that way, if anything (God forbid) does happen, you can't be held legally responsible.

Also, tell you're daughter that if she doesn't listen, she will be punished, and then punish her when she doesn't listen.

You're daughter needs to learn that she is responsible for her actions regardless of who she hangs around with. I know she's young, but this is a lesson better learned now than later.

Answer 6

Don't let him in your house anymore. If he comes over tell him he can't come in politely. When your kids are doing something and he calls their names go outside and tell him they are busy right now and they can't come out. If your kids listen to him instead of you, you should get them under control too. He sound like a bad influence so don't let your kids near him.

Answer 7

Tell him he isn't allowed to play with your kid anymore and explain why then tell your kids they aren't allowed to play with him and tell them why.

You are in control here and don't need some other child teaching your kids the wrong things.  You get to pick and choose their friends until they are much older.

Answer 8

If you talk to the kid in a bad manner, then that won't get you any where.  Instead of treating the kid like you don't want him around, invite him over sometime, make him feel like a wanted guest, b/c either way, the kid is going to come over.  Trying to keep the poor little kid out isn't going to solve the problem.  He's just a kid.

have you even ever considered how the kid lives? what problems he might have in his household, i bet the kid is lonely and doesn't have anybody else to hang around with.

Answer 9

tell your kids not to go around him, your blaming this 5 y/o for YOUR kids running out of YOUR home when he calls. Make them stay inside and tell them to stay away from him or they will be punished.

Answer 10

The problem isn't this other child it is YOUR children.  Obviously your children are followers (I wonder where they learned that?) and are easily swayed by other children.  It is your own kids you need to talk to.  This other kid simply has an obvioulsy stronger personallity than your's do.  That isn't this other child's fault...it is what your children have been taught from the cradle.  Also if you can't supervise your children then it's your fault they "sneak" out.  My kids never have and I have three of them.  When they are supposed to be inside they remain inside unless they ASK if they can go out and are given permssion.  Obviously your children have never been taught discipline...again that is not the fault of this other child.